The best toys for shower sex

I don’t know about you, but my shower sex experiences have always felt a little awkward. The water was running down my face, my feet were sliding and it never felt like it was depicted in the movies. All I can think about is getting a rash from the lack of lubrication, and it’s hard to feel truly excited when you think about what you might have to deal with in the future (IYKYK).

It wasn’t until I started enjoying candlelight showers that I discovered how sexy the experience could be. These showers began to become part of a ritual I had established for my own pleasure. I realized there is an art to bathing, either alone or with a partner.

Why take a shower and have sex?

I’m a huge advocate for taking sex out of the bedroom – it’s something we can all benefit from. See, considering many of us live with roommates, family, or children, this can be a luxury. In this case, PG does not have free range. However, the bathroom gives you complete privacy and Bedroom changes. As comfort creatures, we sometimes choose what is most convenient and easiest for us. Since the bedroom is so cozy and where we start and end our day, it makes sense that it would be our default place to have sex.

Break the rules

Whether you’re single or in a relationship, we all need to create the desire to keep our sex life thriving. Desire can arise from the unknown, spontaneity, and change. Mixing up sex with different locations and even toys can boost sexual desire, which in turn can lead to better sex and happier relationships.

Which of my picks of toys will make your shower sex better? I’m so glad you asked!

Your new favorite shower partner – Womanizer Wave

Now is the perfect time to finish the responsible adulting part of this blog and make a change to your shower head. Trust me, it’s not hard to do. You just unscrew it and replace the old one with the new one. As part of your Sunday Self-Care, the Womanizer Wave Shower Head is non-negotiable. To be honest, before I switched to the Womanizer, I thought orgasming with a shower head was a myth. The shower head comes in three different functions including PleasureJet, PleasureWhirl and PowderRain, all with two intensity options. My personal favorite is the high-intensity PleasureWhirl after a slight warm-up.

Best Vibes – Lelo Flickering Touch Candle

If you can, try to enjoy the moment as the sun sets. Instead of reaching for the bathroom light—try a candle. Lelo’s Flickering Touch Candle fills the bathroom with the delicious scent of vanilla and cocoa butter while providing enough lighting to see your silhouette. This alone can transport your mind to a more relaxed and sensual space. Your mind and body will begin to slow down, making it easier to be happy. These Lelo candles also double as hot wax or warm massage oil. After turning off the shower, blow out the candle and bring it into the bedroom. If you’re looking for a night of alone time, you might enjoy massaging it into your own body, or pouring it onto your loved one’s back to give them a delicious massage.

Fixed lubrication coefficient – good silicone lubricant

Although you’ve seen these in hot sex shower scenarios, in real life it can be uncomfortable as the water washes away the natural lubrication. Whether you’re showering alone or having vaginal or anal sex with a partner, lubricant is essential. The best lubricant to use in this situation is a silicone-based lubricant, as it resists water and allows for smooth movement. Please note that silicone-based lubricants cannot be used with condoms or silicone-based sex toys. If this is part of the experience you want, I recommend using a water-based lube, as I know you may need to reapply frequently.

Small tip, big power – Wild Secrets Seduce Vibe

The Wild Secrets Seduce Precision Vibrator is a small but powerful toy that can be used all over the body. The small tip of the vibrator makes it ideal for exploring and teasing known and yet-to-be-discovered erogenous areas of the body, such as the nipples, lower abdomen, back, and inner thighs. If you’re a fan of clitoral orgasms, this product is the perfect size for teasing and arousing the clitoris through vulvar stimulation. I personally choose this product for my shower game, the top is not silicone and works perfectly with silicone based lube.

Moist and slutty – perky sucker cuffs

If you’re having shower sex with your partner, why not use a set of suction cup cuffs to keep your hands free? If you’re curious about exploring BDSM, these shower suction cup restraints might be a fun way to start playing around with power dynamics and restraints. Or if you’re already a fan, it’s a great way to explore bondage in a new environment. Let your partner set the cuff in a comfortable position while you explore your body using the lube, precision vibrator, and Womanizer shower head. Remember, when entering this game, consent is non-negotiable.

Read more: How to make consent sexy.

About those slippery feet

If reading this article has inspired you with some ideas for your next solo pleasure practice or to surprise your loved one, that’s exactly what I’m looking for. But be aware that showers can be slippery, and you may overlook the risks when your mind is elsewhere. I recommend having slow sex in simpler positions to avoid any slipping. Another tip for making shower sex safer is to place a non-slip mat on the shower floor.

Got it? OK Now go get that sexy shower you deserve!

Author: Amy Louise

Amy Louise is an Australian sexologist who provides counselling, sexual health coaching and freelance writing to increase body autonomy, pleasure and fun in sexuality and sexual health. You can find her on Instagram: @thenewnormal.sexology View all posts by Amy Louise