help! We don’t have sex anymore, honestly no

2025-04-19
Posted by PSEDEN

Frankly: It is not uncommon to reach a relationship that no longer occurs in a sexual relationship. Maybe it’s been weeks, months, or even years. Maybe it slowly weakens or falls suddenly. You may also burn your life now and can continue to avoid it now.
If you’re thinking, “Yes, this is me,” we hope you know: It’s OK. real. We understand that all responsibilities of adults do not completely create good intimacy and conditions. Instead, all the stress usually creates a low-key sexual desire.

Let’s talk about avoidance – sympathy

Not wanting to deal with it doesn’t mean you don’t care. In fact, avoidance is usually a form of self-protection. Maybe you are worried that talking about it will lead to more problems. Maybe the idea of “fixing” your sex life is overwhelming on you with work, kids, care, burnout or just trying to spend the week.
Maybe, if you tell the truth, you won’t miss too much. This is fair and understandable. We probably won’t miss it because we’re too stressed to think about the work needed to get things going again. Maybe it’s never been that great in the first place.
Your lack of desire may be temporary, circumstantial, or lasting. The most important thing is: How does a lack of gender affect you (and your relationship, if you are a one-person relationship)? Is it causing trouble? Create a disconnect? Inspire resentment or insecurity? Or is it just a quiet silence, no one knows how to name it?
Avoiding conversations can lead to temporary relief, but over time it often creates distance, confusion, or assumptions that have never been clarified. This is where sex therapy can help. We don’t have to put pressure on goals or performance, but we can provide support and space to name what happens.

Why does sex stop?

There are many reasons why sex may stop a relationship. Usually, this is a combination of at least a few things. Here are some of the more common reasons:

Stress, exhaustion and burnout
Parenting or caring responsibilities
Changes in desire or sexual orientation
Medical problems, medication or hormone changes
Pain or discomfort during sex
Relationship conflict/dissatisfaction
Feeling emotionally disconnected
Shame or body image attention
Fear of sex
Trauma history resurfaces
Lack of time, space or privacy – Hello, parents of young children! We see you.

What if I don’t want to have sex now?

It doesn’t matter.
Desire is complicated. It is responsive, relational, emotional, physical and psychological. If the idea of reigniting sex life is more like a trivial matter than curiosity, we get it. We know better than asking you: “What makes you turn on? or “What do you like?” “If you know the answers to these questions, you probably won’t be here.
May be helpful:

Will I feel emotional connection in this relationship?
Will I feel safe and see it inside?
What information I’ve absorbed about sex may affect me now?
Is the topic of sex so shameful that I can’t discuss it?
Is there any resentment I can’t express?
Am I sad, healing or deep transition?
Has the transition of life changed the way I experience sex? Maybe I need something different now than before?

A lack of gender does not necessarily mean there is something wrong with your relationship, or something you have to solve right now. You don’t have to “fix” anything to start exploring these issues. Despite the lack of sexual behavior, many couples remained very determined and in love. Again, it’s about deciding what’s going on with you.

What if my partner wants more sex than I do?

Differences in desires or mismatched desires are one of the most common reasons people seek sexual therapy. This doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed to fail. This means there is a gap to understand, not a question to blame.
We often help partners learn how to talk about sex without stress, shutdown or defensiveness. This may involve learning to define intimacy, exploring new ways of different forms of touch or connection, and even redefining what “gender” means to couples.

Final Thought: Start Where You Are

You don’t have to want to have sex right now. You don’t have to prepare to have a large-scale conversation in depth. You don’t have to know where everything is.
At the Sexual Health Academy, we don’t rush to this process. Let’s listen. We can help you categorize with your partners individually, or you choose to appear. We provide a space for sexual health, that sexual health is about respecting who you are and where you are. If you are not ready to deal with it today? It doesn’t matter. You will be here.

Consider sex therapy in Plymouth, Minnesota

Sex therapy provides a compassionate space that avoids avoidance, reduces shame, and gently rebuilds trust and intimacy, whether you choose to prioritize sexual behavior now or not. Many clients find that re-understanding, intimacy and relief of stress enables them to move forward in their relationships and within, respect and give themselves feelings. When you have us ready, we have it for you.

Contact the Sexual Health Institute to set up your first date.
Meet one of our skilled sex therapists for intake.
In your conditions, it feels easier to start your own pace and needs with your conditions, body, body or both.