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Signs Your Partner May Be Engaging in ‘Micro-Cheating’ – and What It Is

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Microcheating is a term that describes subtle behaviors or behaviors that, while not outright infidelity, can still challenge the trust and integrity of a relationship.

These seemingly small betrayals often unsettle partners because they create emotional distance and sow seeds of doubt in the relationship.

Behaviors that fall under the category of microcheating vary widely, but often include behaviors that suggest a violation of emotional or relationship boundaries.

While the word may be “micro,” the impact of these behaviors can have significant emotional consequences, leading to an erosion of trust and deep-rooted insecurities.


Keeping online dating profiles and flirting on social media are examples of “microcheating.” Adobe Stock

Examples of microcheating

Microcheating can take many forms, and what constitutes this behavior varies from couple to couple.

However, there are some common examples of relationships that tend to cross relationship boundaries:

Maintain dating app profiles:

A common form of microcheating is for a partner to keep a dating app profile active. Even if they are not actively looking for a new relationship, the simple act of keeping access to the app and scrolling through potential matches could be seen as a breach of trust.

Confidential communication with your ex:

Ongoing communication with an ex-partner, especially when the current partner is unaware, is another form of micro-cheating. The cause of tension is often the secrecy, not the communication itself.

Build emotional bonds with colleagues:

Partners may develop close emotional connections with people outside the relationship (such as coworkers at work) that transcend the boundaries of typical friendships. Activities typically viewed as romantic, such as going to the movies or dinner, can blur the lines between friendship and something more intimate.

Engage in flirtatious online interactions:

Social media interactions can also be a form of microcheating. For example, someone might like or comment on a post or exchange flirtatious messages with someone they find attractive, even if they have never met that person.

The anonymity and distance provided by online platforms can make this behavior feel harmless, but it can often lead to trust issues.

The impact of microcheating

Although these behaviors may not involve physical intimacy, minor deceptions can erode trust and create emotional chaos in a relationship. It often leaves partners feeling insecure, anxious and isolated.

The effects of microcheating are subtle but profound:

Breaking trust:

Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and small deceptions can quickly undermine that foundation. Even if a partner doesn’t physically cheat on the relationship, their secretive behavior or emotional connections with others can raise suspicion.

Impact on emotional health:

Partners who experience microcheating may begin to question themselves and the relationship. Feelings of jealousy, insecurity, and self-doubt can arise when they sense something isn’t right, even if they can’t pinpoint the exact problem.

Over time, these feelings can weaken self-esteem and lead to emotional exhaustion.

Questioning the relationship:

Small deceptions can make the affected partner question the overall level of commitment in the relationship. If one partner is emotionally involved with another person, it raises the question of whether they are fully committed to their current relationship. This emotional disconnect can create a divide between partners, leading to dissatisfaction and feelings of dissatisfaction.

Love affairs:

While microcheating doesn’t involve physical intimacy, it can sometimes cross the line and become what’s known as an emotional affair. An emotional affair occurs when one partner seeks emotional intimacy with someone outside the relationship, and this betrayal can be just as painful as physical infidelity. In some cases, the emotional aspect of microcheating can be more damaging than the sexual behavior because it reflects a deeper lack of emotional intimacy or satisfaction in the relationship.


Experts say small deceptions can cause your partner to lose trust in your relationship.
Experts say small deceptions can cause your partner to lose trust in your relationship. Estella Denton – stock.adobe.com

More and more disconnections:

When partners begin to develop emotional connections elsewhere, they often become less reliant on their partner for emotional support. This can create further distance and disconnect in the relationship.

Is it possible to move on after microcheating?

Whether micro-cheating is a deal-breaker or can be resolved depends on the specific dynamics of the relationship and the behavior involved. In order to determine whether the relationship can recover from microcheating, both parties need to address the issue head-on.

Some key questions to consider include:

What is the nature of this behavior?

It’s important to evaluate specific microcheating behaviors and what they mean to you. What may seem harmless to one party may cause deep harm to the other. Understanding the meaning behind actions and the emotional impact they have is crucial.

Does your partner take responsibility?

To have a chance of reconciliation, partners who engage in microcheating need to be held accountable for their actions. A willingness to acknowledge the impact of one’s actions, express remorse, and make amends is necessary to rebuild trust.

Were boundaries discussed?

Open communication is key to any relationship. If microcheating occurs, it is necessary to discuss boundaries and what is or is not acceptable.

Partners who are unwilling to engage in this discussion may not be fully committed to changing their behavior.

Ultimately, the ability to overcome microcheating will depend on levels of transparency, accountability, and emotional repair.

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