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When we think of adult public sex, we usually think of sex toys – or even using other parts of the body in the traditional way. But with the ever-evolving world of technology, we have many other options. Today, we’re going to look at how nipple sex works.
We’ll discuss how to start the conversation with your partner, other key conversation points, how to take the first step toward public nipple play, product You can use etc.
But first, a very important note…
Public Games Are Not Public
Before we dive in, I want to make one clear. Whenever we talk about open play in a Lovense article or product, we understand that “open play” does not mean having fun in front of others who can witness it.
Instead, you should get used to appending the word “discreetly” to any notion of the word “public” in any sexual context here or on any other site.
Yes, some people get turned on by being grabbed by strangers, etc. But engaging in lewd behavior in any form (in public) without the other person’s consent is a violation of one of the SSSC rules (Safe, Sane, Sober, Consensual). These rules keep kink/BDSM play safe and healthy, rather than giving good people like us a bad name as abuse. If a young person happens to see, even a glimpse, it can be completely illegal.
This is why choosing where to play your “public” games is so important – we’ll get to that later.
Talk to your partner
So, you want to try nipple play outside of the home? Great!
This procedure is useful for those who want to learn how to get arousal in public without the added pressure of wearable sex toys like love eggs or prostate massagers.
If your partner is already a kinky person, the conversation will be easy. But if they’re still on the more kinky side, wait until your libido starts to heat up (or even when you’re in the throes of post-sex bliss). Or… whenever you feel comfortable with it. Tell them what you want to try and see if they’d like to try it.
If they are nervous, great! You can try small steps by playing with these toys at home As you go about your day, in the backyard, or during a quick walk around the block.
Both parties agree on ground rules on how to make the experience 100% comfortable.
For example, maybe nothing happens if someone is in sight. Maybe you have full control over the nipple toy and your partner can only watch, etc.
Select your product

The best option for private play is A set of vibrating nipple clamps with Bluetooth or other remote technology. Some devices can be controlled with a smartphone—even each vibrator at a time.
But if those toys are too expensive, you can always get one with a remote control (but that’s more fiddly and harder to keep hidden). Finally, you can use regular nipple clamps. But I recommend using nipple clamps with a dangling part so your partner can pull on them from time to time (if you want them to get involved).
Also, as a rule of thumb, make sure you get a set that is adjustable so you can secure them to whatever pressure satisfies you.
Dressing Considerations for Nipple Play

One thing you can’t get away from is that 99% of the time, no matter what style you choose Nipple clamps They are visible under any thin material. So if you go to a club in a silk dress or any old top (for men) with large nipple clamps, everyone will see (and you may be violating SCCC rules, depending on where you are or who you meet).
Instead, choose bras that have at least a little padding. Not only will they hide the clips, they’ll help keep them in place. For men, check your shirt to see if there’s a jacket or something else that can help hide these goodies.
Finally, how convenient would you want these clips to be if you didn’t have a smartphone connection option? Think about what you’re going to wear before you leave the house.
Great Places for Public Nipple Play
I’m assuming you have at least one device with some sort of remote control – otherwise, this is going to be nearly impossible. If you don’t know where to play, it’s pretty simple.
You can go anywhere that has enough noise (to mask any possible pleasant sounds – but you’ll still be doing everything you can to be quiet). But the noise will also mask the sounds of the toys, since none are 100% quiet. More people also means fewer eyes on what’s going on with you.
- Walking on a busy street
- Busy cafe or restaurant
- Through the Park
- In a museum or gallery
- Club or Concert
Communicate after nipple caressing
Let’s say you come home from a game. Don’t forget to chat about what you liked, what could be tweaked, and what you might not want to do anymore. This conversation can be as long or as short as you want. For veteran players, it can even be “Is everything ok?” “Yeah!”
Make sure you are on the same page because sometimes someone might feel scared or embarrassed. So check before, during, and after the game.
enjoy!