Divorce lawyer reveals four common mistakes couples make

Until death – or divorce – let’s break up.

Although divorce rates have dropped throughout the United States, couples are still split every day—sometimes for avoidable reasons.

That’s why Padideh Jafari, the founder and CEO of Jafari’s Office of Law and Mediation, reveals four common mistakes that couples make.

She shares her main reasons for seeing couples’ splits and suggestions for overcoming these obstacles.

“Marriage can be a beautiful thing, but besides love, it requires work and intention.”

Prioritize your job or your child’s marriage

One of the main reasons couples are separated is that they lose focus on their relationship and put other things (usually their job or children) before their marriage.

“You must never prioritize your career,” said the expert, noting that children should not hinder your relationship either.

“Of course, you love your children and need to take care of their physical and emotional needs, but don’t forget your spouse.”

A special date night or vacation with your partner can be a great way to forget your responsibilities and devote your time to your loved ones.

Being trapped in social media

Instagram posts, Facebook albums, and Tiktok videos keep us in touch – but sometimes you see the highlights of someone’s life, and a one-click isn’t suitable for our relationship.

“From reconnecting with the old flame to secret information, social media is intensifying modern divorces,” Jafari said.

The expert claims that even peeking into the front flames’ social media accounts are crossing a line.

“Social media makes us think the grass may be greener elsewhere,” she said.

“But, as a married person, you should consider your own home – watering and fertilizing your own lawn to make it beautiful with your spouse.”

Communication but not understanding

As the saying goes, communication is key – but in fact it’s more than that. Couples need not only communication, but also understanding what their partner is saying.

The skilled communicator explains that sometimes it can be as innocent as when completing a partner’s sentence, but warns: “This can lead to frustration and resentment.”

That’s why she advises people to “try to pause and appear in conversation” instead of making assumptions – You know what they are talking about.

She also added that asking follow-up questions can help you get to know each other better.

Urgent romance

Although the Beatles will trust you – love is not what you need.

Take the time to truly understand each other’s values, goals and ways to deal with stress or conflict. Love may feel like it’s enough, but long-term compatibility requires patience, communication and common growth.

That’s why Jafari advises not to rush to get married.

Jafari insists: “If you are going to be together forever, there is no reason to get married quickly. Instead, spend some time meeting your spouse, literally and symbolically, in different seasons of your life.”

Take the time to build a strong emotional foundation, talk about finances, children and life plans. The more you know each other, the stronger the bond will be.