8 Tips for Using a Butt Plug (and I Love It) |

Anal plugs.There is very little poetry about them. Yet these small (or large) sturdy toys have many practical and enjoyable uses.

But why?

Without getting around the linguistic frankness: you can put them to work to loosen/stretch/relax/prepare your asshole for anal sexAKA anal training.

Or someone else can prepare you. Or you can prepare someone else. Do you like my use of the word ready?

This is a key concept for anyone who tries (or continues to try) any type of anal penetration. We all have to face the fact that anuses are not like vaginas. In fact, they don’t lubricate, relax, or dilate in the same way that our vaginas do. They need extra help. Tutoring, if you will.

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If you’ve ever tried anal and found it horribly wrong, you probably weren’t ready. But with the right kind of love, and maybe even a pre-coital afternoon of wearing your best suit, you can do it. anal plug As you stroll down the granola aisle, anal adventurers of all stripes are in for a hell of a good time.

Butt plugs are often used as a form of kink in dominance and submission play. Wearing one can be an exciting way to explore vulnerability (or humiliation) in a way that provides deep, tantalizing pleasure. While some enjoy sliding it in and out (like you would with a sex toy designed for your vagina), they are designed to create a feeling of fullness in your ass.

Other options: Leave it in place for double penetration during masturbation, vaginal intercourse, mutual masturbation, or oral sex. Or use it as a standalone accessory while you go about your business. To each their own.

So many orgasms, so little time

The first time I slipped my tiny, shiny, sphincter-friendly metal object out my back door, it was weight That’s what struck me.

It was heavy. In a really good way. I felt horny walking around with it. And when I masturbated my clit with it, or had sex with it, it was pure ecstasy. I came faster and harder than ever before. It was touching a whole new part of me while simultaneously putting pressure on just the right spot.

It turns out there are tons of super-sensitive nerve endings in your rectum, and depending on how the plug is used, the female Skene’s glands (AKA the female prostate) can be stimulated, which can be a very pleasurable discovery, leading to whole new qualities of orgasms.

Anal plugs for everyone: each to their own style

Butt plugs come in all shapes, sizes, and materials, some with sparkly rhinestone girths designed to make your asshole look like a glittering portal to another universe (in a good way), and some with fox, kitten, or bunny tails dangling from them. For the animal lovers out there.

They are designed to be installed and stay in place for a period of time.

They are tapered: small at the top, large in the middle and thin again at the neck of the toy just before the flared base. THIS. IS. VERY. IMPORTANT. Flared base, guys.

They are designed to make their presence felt, while remaining securely in place.

You just have to know how to use them correctly.

Before I used my butt plug correctly, I also used it, uh, wrong. Once or twice. Ouch. Lesson learned: don’t rush.

Here are 8 helpful tips to get you started on your first butt plug gathering.

1. Go to the bathroom

Go to the bathroom first if you have to go. Practice good hygiene before getting ready for what you have planned.

2. Start small

It’s always best to start small and work your way up. Some sockets even come in packs of multiple sizes for this purpose. So convenient.

3. Gentleness = goodness

Softer materials like silicone and vinyl make great toys because they are soft yet firm enough for easy insertion, and non-toxic. I also really like my stainless steel model.

4. Lubricate. Lubricate. Lubricate.

To have lubricant within reach and close by before beginning any anal insertion of any kind. Here are some lubrication options.

5. Get excited!

Make sure you’re super turned on before inserting a butt plug. I like to orgasm first. It relaxes you.

6. Take your time

On the best of days, I’m vehemently against the concept of the “quickie.” But when it comes to anal sex, that’s even more true. The goal here is pleasure, not efficiency. So relax.

Whether with a partner or alone, inserting a plug too quickly can hurt. A lot. Start with your lubricated fingers to get used to the sensation and avoid any injury to your delicate anal canal. Only when you feel ready, insert the toy very slowly.

7. Wash your hands

Always wash your hands after inserting your plug before going anywhere with your delicate fingers, and avoid cross-contamination, or spreading bacteria from the anus to the vagina, which can cause infection. Make sure your partner always respects this rule as well.

8. Wash your anal plug

Wash your anal plug with warm water and soap immediately after use and allow it to air dry. Never share anal toys due to the risk of transmitting infections, viruses or bacteria.

Once you get the hang of it, feel free to experiment and get creative! You can try quickly removing the plug while you’re cumming for added sensation. Or you can try a vibrating anal plugFind what suits you!

As always, have fun, my loves, and never be afraid to let your freak flag fly.