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Advice is always changing, which is why we’re still struggling with myths about female sex.
As we learn more and more about our bodies (let’s be honest, we still don’t know everything), there are some tidbits people may have once believed to be true that we now know are bullshit. So, here are some sex myths you may have heard before or that are completely new to you.
1. Orgasm from vaginal intercourse
Ugh. Why hasn’t this myth been busted? The problem is that the media shows that most women orgasm from intercourse. The problem is that a large portion of girls (about 70%) get most of their pleasurable orgasms from clitoral stimulation.
That’s why it’s a good idea to give her at least one orgasm using this method before engaging in any male pleasure.
2. If she doesn’t orgasm, you’re a bad performer in bed
While this is sometimes true, it is not the only culprit. There are many reasons why a person (male or female) may not make it to the finish line.
There’s stress, medication, body image issues, and more.
All of these factors combine to keep things from happening. A girl needs to feel safe and relaxed for the fireworks to come off. This doesn’t necessarily mean that trust needs to come from a committed partner. But if there’s doubt, her mind will be on that.
3. Wetness can give women an erection
While moisture is an essential element of sex, that doesn’t mean dryness is directly related to pleasure. Like orgasm, it can be hindered by many factors. Medication or age can make the vagina a little dry, but that’s okay! Just apply some lubrication and problem solved!
4. Women don’t want sex as much as men do
I would group this with some other myths…
- Women no longer desire sex after relationship breakup
- They are equally adventurous in sex
- Women’s sexual “vision” is not as good as men’s
Bullshit. None of this is true. Even if you are single, you can have a low libido. Adventurousness has nothing to do with gender. Women love porn. I could go on, but you get my point.
5. Women peak in their 30s
This one comes from the Kinsey studies from the 60s. The problem is that the data is from people in their 20s and 30s. No one over 40. There is really no “peak” age because there are countless variables that influence a person’s libido, sexual desire, sex appeal, etc.
A recent study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association analyzed the sex lives of more than 600 women aged 40 to 65 over eight years and found that women with a positive attitude toward sex were three times more likely to maintain a pleasurable sex life.
6. Peak value difference of 10 years
While testosterone peaks in men around age 18, and estrogen levels in women peak in their 20s, this has led to the belief that there is a 10-year difference in peak libido, and therefore a difference in when women and men need lots of sex.
But whether you want a lot of sex has nothing to do with your age. There are countless factors that play into sexual desire—like illness, medications, stress, and more. Also, sexual desire peaks and troughs for women throughout their lives. The same is true for men. That said, you can have many sexual peaks throughout your life.
7. The first time is painful
Sometimes it is true. But a woman’s first time is unique. It depends on how well lubricated she is, how gentle and attentive her lover is, the shape of her hymen, her pain threshold, her perspective on sex, the position she is in, etc.
8. They are not as “visually” stimulated as men
Rumor has it that men are visual creatures. But new research suggests that women may be just as visually stimulated. I mean, ask any woman how she reacts when she sees a hot celebrity she wants to get intimate with – there’s a lot at work in the eyes.
What Women Want: A Scientific Exploration of Female DesireA study by Daniel Bergner showed that women were just as interested in pornographic images as men, and another report found that one in three porn users were women.
9. Spontaneity is best
Although the sex was wonderful in that moment, it was not necessarily That often.
In reality, the perfect situation where both partners want to rip each other’s clothes off is so rare that it can be unhealthy to use this as the sole spark for sexual encounters. Couples can end up in a rut, with women often blaming themselves (and even their partners) for not being in the right mood; there’s something “wrong” with them.
The reality is that people need to communicate and nurture their sex lives. They need to take time to develop intimacy.
10. Loss of interest in sex after marriage
This sexual myth stems from our looking at an issue from an ignorant perspective.
The first aspect actually ties back to myth #9 – that sex needs to be spontaneous (which we now know is false). Next, we add the possibility of having children. As anyone who has had children knows, they require a lot of energy from you. Finally, if the relationship is unbalanced and one party is not taking on equal responsibilities (including housework etc.), there can be quite a bit of resentment. All of this can lead to sex becoming less frequent or ceasing altogether.
Marriage is not the reason sex is killed, it is the relationship that breaks down – from communication to equal participation. Or, to put it very bluntly…if a woman ends up being treated like a maid, nanny, assistant, and driver after marriage, and then is asked to drop everything and have sex when the other person is aroused, then the problem is not the ring.
11. Women are less sexually adventurous
Some women don’t like adventurous sex. Likewise, some men don’t like it either. But women get more negative reinforcement for non-traditional sexual behaviors. We don’t need to know in detail what women are supposed to be like, just what reactions they get when they do it. Or how the older generation is supposed to behave.
There is too much garbage from the past to get rid of. In fact, many women are bold in their sexuality.
12. Inability to conceive during menstruation
Yes, you can! It may be harder than during ovulation, but there is still a chance.
For most women, a menstrual cycle lasts about 28 days, with only about 5 of those days being menstruation. During this brief bleeding period, an unfertilized egg or “ovum” and the lining of the uterus are released. But before menstruation begins, women go through ovulation, a 12-16 day window during which the ovary releases a mature egg.
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Some women have shorter menstrual cycles, which means they ovulate earlier, and given that sperm can survive in the body for up to 5 days, this means that if the timing is right, sperm can survive long enough in a woman’s body to survive her menstrual period and fertilize an egg.Source website
Oh, and speaking of pregnancy, it’s also wrong to try to force a woman into labor through intercourse. It can actually delay labor!
13. Women take longer to become aroused
According to a study published in 2007 Journal of Sexual Medicine,But in fact, it’s not.
The researchers used thermal imaging to measure genital blood flow in 28 men and 30 women who watched videos that were either neutral, humorous, or erotic.
Health Network
It turns out that men and women orgasm in the same amount of time, so if she’s not aroused, maybe try another method. With so many options out there, you’re sure to find one that works. A great way to get started is to use sex toys as part of foreplay.
14. Their vagina reveals how many partners they have had
First, let’s get a little clear on the concept of the “hymen.” It’s not a bulbous cap over the vaginal opening. It doesn’t pop out. Ugh. Think of it like a hairband around the vaginal opening—it’s different for everyone. Next, the idea that an elongated vaginal opening is a sign of multiple sexual partners is also a very false belief.
The vagina is meant to stretch (how you think the baby comes out). It is also meant to go back to normal size. How tight or loose the vagina is depends entirely on her genetics. *mic drop*
Anything else you’d like to add? Any sex-obsessed mind-boggling thoughts? Please share in the comments!