I have been recently inspired by the Netflix original series How to Build a Sex Room and want to share with you why I think we all need a sex room. This show is like the sexy version of HGTV.
What is a sex room?
First, what is a sex room? Put simply, it’s a place where you get intimate with yourself and/or partner or partners.
This can be your bedroom or a different room in your house.
Why do you need a sex room?
Think about your bedroom for a second.
Is it clean?
Is it a place you want to be?
Does it give sexy vibes?
Are any sex toys easily accessible?
If you answered no to any of these questions, you need a sex room.
Everyone needs a sex room.
The show’s host, Melanie Rose, talks couples through their various likes and needs for their sex room. And it may just give you some new ideas! While some folks knew exactly what they wanted, some really needed some help in that area. She brought one couple to a sex toy store and explained different toys and how they work. To most couples, she suggested sexy furniture that is both visually appealing and functional. She also took sexy boudoir photos of the couples to display in the room. One woman even discovered her love for rope bondage! You also don’t need to be partnered to have a sex room. In the last episode, we meet Lisa, who shows us that you can utilize a sex room by yourself and with casual partners.
I want to be clear: You don’t need to be kinky to benefit from a sex room.
So how do you go about building a sex room?
So, let’s say you are going to use your bedroom. First, clean that room until it’s sparkling. Get all the clutter and unnecessary items out. Make sure all of your clothes have a place in a dresser or closet. Now, let’s think about what you might want in there. Here are some suggestions and why they are important:
Sex toys and a way to display them in an easily accessible and visually appealing way.
This can be a nice basket or some shelves to display them on. The toys include things like the following: vibrators, suction toys, nipple clamps, restraints, blindfolds, feathers, floggers, strap-ons, anal plugs, and so much more!
Nice, comfortable, and sexy bedding.
Think high thread count, silk, sexy colors, etc. Add throw pillows so the bed looks aesthetically pleasing when made.
Sex Furniture.
Sex furniture, like a bouncing sex stool (pictured here), can help with the work of being on top. A sex chaise (pictured above) or ramp gives you more comfort in various positions, as well as the ability to optimize angles for increased sexual pleasure.
Learn more about different types of sex furniture here:
Mirrors.
To admire your sexy self, of course!
Sexy Clothing.
This can mean different things to everyone but could include lingerie, role-play costumes, clothes that have feel-good fabrics, leather, etc.
Sex up your bathroom.
You can clean up in a sexy way together. A nice big bathtub for two (or more!)
Cameras.
…for consensual filming and watching together or separately later.
Mood enhancements.
This can be candles, gorgeous lighting, sexy décor, music, etc
Your sex room is first and foremost, for YOU.
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