Women love sexting, but men are best, study finds

They don’t want unsolicited photos of men – but women do like sexting.

A new study published in the journal Gender reveals why young women are so keen to do so, and what messages most arouse their passion.

Researchers at the University of Guadalajara in Mexico analyzed the brains of 27 heterosexual women between the ages of 20 and 30 as they read sexually explicit text (SET) and sexually explicit text with an aggressive tone (SETA).

They found that sexting triggered responses in the brain’s prefrontal and temporal lobes, two areas responsible for processing emotions.

“This may be because, unlike men, women tend to find more ‘humanity’ in stories or novels,” the study states. “Characters have names, stories, and desires of their own.”

Women want more than just to watch others have sex—they want to understand the buildup of emotions during intercourse, how it turns them on and makes them anxious.

“The literature provides guidelines that highlight the important relationships that develop between participants in sexual relationships,” the study states.

“Unlike porn videos, reading allows you to add or remove elements to your liking, thus creating a personalized fantasy.”

Women are generally less likely to be visually stimulated than men. This is consistent with the fact that men are more likely to watch pornography while women are more likely to read romance novels or listen to pornographic audio.

But what kind of sexts do women want you to send? Research has found that while women do like aggressive texts, they prefer texts that are sexy and sweet.

The study concluded: “For women, both types of text messages are sexually arousing,” but the aggressive sexting is “more likely to induce sexual arousal and heightened alertness” because women seem to ignore the threatening parts of the text and focus only on the good content.

Studies have also found that sexting releases dopamine and oxytocin, triggering the pleasure of flirting and sexual desire.

Dr Tara Suwinyatichapon, a relationship coach and sex educator at California State University, Fullerton, told Daily Mail Online: “Sexing is a sexually empowering act because it is part of sexual communication.”

“When you have healthy sexual communication, you give yourself permission to express your sexual self, which is great for your sexual self-esteem.”

The prevalence of online dating has led to an increase in the desire for virtual intimacy, such as sexting, sending nude photos including “d–k pics,” online sex, and face-to-face sexual intercourse, to name a few.

But desire comes with some rules of love.

Bumble editorial content director Alanna Lauren Greco previously told The Washington Post: “Living in a digital-first world means it’s important to have the same safe conversations online that we have in real life. Making assumptions can lead to crossing boundaries.”

Unfortunately, the increase in online dating and online use has led to a large amount of online violence and harassment against women.

As with any sexual request, the first step is asking for consent — and the best way to ensure you’re practicing safe and respectful digital dating etiquette is to ask.

“It only takes two seconds,” Grace Lee, a dating coach in New York City, previously told The Washington Post. “The point of virtual intimacy is to have fun and be sexy, and it’s even hotter when you know both parties are actually into it.”