Willful Ignorance – Sex and Relationship Repair

We are not in denial, we just selectively accept reality.

For some of us, denial is so deep and powerful that we somehow manage to remain oblivious to the nature and extent of our problematic sexual behaviors—even when those behaviors escalate to the point of destroying our relationships and lives. Basically, we find ways to ignore the severity of our behaviors so that we can continue with them. This willful ignorance can last for years. In fact, when confronted with something as basic as our adult sexual and relationship history in the early stages of treatment and recovery, many of us are ultimately shocked to “discover” the extent and depth of our addictive behaviors.

Today’s Task
Think of at least three ways you have ignored the seriousness of your addiction. Share these in therapy or in a 12-step meeting.