Why women don’t want to date a “Red Pill Man”

In Australia, there are more than 330,000 women, but despite the inequality of dating pools, more and more single men will never pursue it.

These impossible men are those who agree with the concept of “red pills”, a shocking subculture that perpetuates social hatred against women by opposing feminist narratives and emphasizing traditional gender roles.

The term originated in the 1999 film “matrix”,,,,, The choice between the red pill and the blue pill provides a choice for the lead feature. The red pill symbolizes the reality of awakening, while the blue pill indicates that it is still happy but ignorant.

Male rights activism adopts the concept of “red pills”, representing an awakening similar to the true nature of social and gender relations they believe.

These modern misogynists often gather in a virtual space called “manosphere,” a collective of various digital communities that promote distorted views on masculinity.

People found in Manosphere include men’s rights activists and Incels, a group of heterosexual men who blame women and society for lack of romantic success and openly admit that “disgusting” women do not sleep with them.

While it’s easy to get rid of the rise of mainstream aversion as internet feed or the sensational storylines caused by TV shows, data shows that from social media feeds to Australian classrooms, it’s oozing into every corner of culture.

The disturbing rise of troubled men is “things that Australians should worry about”, warning Tarang Chawla, an advocate for gender equality and anti-violence campaigners.

He told news.com.au that “the rise of red pill culture and dynamic thinking is not only causing harm in the real world,” he told news.com.au.

“Essentially, it poses gender equality as such a threat and portrays women as manipulative or lesser people.

“This normalizes misogyny and creates a culture in which violence against women is forgiven, minimized, and even justified. Australians should worry.”

Chawla’s sister Nikita, who was 23 years old when she murdered her in jealous rage in 2015, added that these “distorted” beliefs create a “dangerous” space for women’s existence.

“The idea that men are generally oppressed or women pursue only affluent men or some kind of man reinforces this toxic, confrontational view of gender, which makes people fight each other,” he said.

“When some men feel entitled to women’s attention but think that they are rejected because of ‘manipulating the system’, resentment is established.

“When mixed with rightful rights and dehumanization, resentment becomes a risk factor for violence.”

But while these groups grow and spread sulfuric acid, women are using the internet to warn each other: “Beware of the guys with red pills.”

A feminist social media user dedicated to her page calling up male content creators, and the clips recently captioned one of her clips, “Don’t date or get relationship advice from these men.”

Others shared the moment they realized their partner “devoured the red pill”, many revealing that this led to the end of the relationship.

“The guys with these red pills have gotten out of control,” one person shared in an emotional video.

But who are these men and how can women find them?

Melbourne psychologist Carly Dober said research shows that some men are more susceptible to the “frailty” of harmful ideology than others.

“Systemally speaking, some young people think they are abandoned academically and professionally, with wages and jobs less easily available, and the typical marking of adults (home ownership and reproduction) is more difficult or impossible to obtain than previous generations.”

“Women also have much more agents than previous generations, and are educated, employed, and have more choices in their own lives.

“The messaging of these red pill communities often ignores the systemic drivers of inequality and lures men with simple but wrong answers to these complex questions.

“Some men have also endorsed anti-feminist, anti-equal messaging and behavior, so this community can be their next move.”

Chawla, who recently became a security advocate for the popular dating app Bumble, said even if the number of men who subscribe to the extreme misogyny ideology is rising — singles overwhelmingly want to consider with people.

He explained: “96% of Gen Z want a respected dating experience, while 95% think that dating apps should take action even before they start.”

“This should tell us everything we need to know, and people are actively seeking safer, more consistent spaces to connect.”

But, he said we cannot ignore that “disconnection is eroding trust.”

“Ask the women and they will tell you- they meet these men. They have dated. They have stopped them.

“By pretending it is rare, we ignore the experience of women and the universality of these beliefs, especially online. This leads to a breakdown of trust, and many women feel they have to be vigilant, even in romantic settings.”

Ms Dober, who owns the Psychology Clinic of Rich Life in Melbourne, added: “This ideology is harmful to all of us, including men. Violating traditional masculinity norms can cause men to experience more depression and suicide, which needs to be seen as extreme and stamped.”