Ultimate Guide to Sex Positions: The Butterfly | Aldult Toys Blog

Let’s talk about sex… positions.

Whether you’re just starting out with a new partner or looking to step things up in a long-term, committed relationship, this guide is for you.

Next we have the ever versatile butterfly position.

Butterfly:

Nicknamed “The Flourishing Position” in the The Kama SutraThe Butterfly position is perfect for anyone who has had their share of the missionary position and is looking for something similar, but steamier. In a nutshell, the butterfly position is a bit like missionary, except one partner stands at the edge of the bed (or couch, or table). And there are plenty of sexy variations to explore.

The butterfly is a fantastic position to try if you’re looking to bring your sexual explorations to life or are simply looking for a position that will make it easier to have sex in another room.

You also don’t have to be an endurance athlete or be very flexible to do the Butterfly, making it accessible to many. Not to mention that with a little creativity (i.e., toys), it can easily work for all genders.

Note on conditions:

When talking about penetration, we use the terms “thrusting partner” for the person with the penis (biological or synthetic) and “receiving partner” for the person accepting the act of penetration (vaginal or anal).

It is important to note that being a receiver is not a passive, submissive role. It is an active, enthusiastic role. There is power in choice, and by choosing to invite their partner into themselves, the receiver exercises that power.

Additionally, the thrusting partner is not just a giver. Of course, he or she also receives pleasure during the act. But for the sake of clarity and consistency, we have selected these terms for both sides of the dynamic.

How to do:

The receiving partner lies on their back on the bed (or on the furniture of their choice), with their buttocks on the edge. The pushing partner stands between the receiving partner’s legs, at the edge of the bed, so that their penis or dildo can easily penetrate their partner’s vagina or anus.

The receiving partner then places their legs straight in a vertical V shape, resting their calves or ankles (depending on their height) on the pushing partner’s shoulders. The pushing partner does most of the work, so to speak; the receiving partner can move their hips as they please! They can also move their legs for comfort and stimulation, as they please.

Reasons why we love it:

– It allows extra deep penetration, which can be divine for both partners, facilitating cervical or A-spot orgasms if the receiving partner has a vagina.

– Same-sex couples can accomplish this position using dildos, strapsand/or a desire to explore anal.

– Just because deep penetration is possible doesn’t mean it’s mandatory. The receiving partner can communicate what they need and the pushing partner can respond to their requests.

– It is not hard on either partner’s body, because neither is carrying the other’s weight.

– A receiving partner with a clitoris can easily benefit from extra fingering in this position.

Variations to try:

There are many positions that are very similar to the butterfly position that are known by a multitude of creative and fun names. As always, it’s best to experiment with these slight adjustments to see which option(s) work best for you and your partner. Remember, what feels good on Monday may not be the same as what gets you off on Friday. And seemingly small changes can make all the difference. Explore.

Legs on one shoulder

The receiving partner places both legs on one shoulder of the thrusting partner. This creates a tighter fit for penetration and can serve to amplify the thrusting partner’s (and perhaps the receiving partner’s, depending on what they like) arousal.

To furrow

The receiving partner crosses one leg over the other at the shins, resting the left ankle on the pushing partner’s left shoulder and the right ankle on the pushing partner’s right shoulder. This creates a smaller insertion point for penetration, but not as tight as placing both legs over one shoulder, so it feels different.

Anvil

The pushing partner leans forward toward their partner’s legs, pushing the backs of their thighs back toward their head, or toward one side of their head. This requires greater hip mobility in the receiving partner.

Viennese oyster

The pushing partner pushes the receiving partner’s legs back, toward his head, until his toes finally touch the surface he is lying on. This position requires much more flexibility on the part of the receiving partner and should be discussed and attempted with caution.

Praying mantis

The pushing partner kneels (on the bed, for example) rather than standing, while the receiving partner rests one ankle on his shoulder and places his other leg out to the side. This angle lends itself well to G-spot stimulation and gives the receiving partner more control so they can work their way to orgasm.

Launching ramp

The receiving partner squeezes their legs together, bends their knees toward their chest, and places their heels on their partner’s chest, as if they are about to take off.

Other tips and tricks:

– Accessory pillows or a cushion under the receiving partner’s hips to help achieve that perfect angle (hello G-spot) – or simply to avoid the unnecessary discomfort that comes with being in a less than optimal position!

– Never hesitate to adjust the angles of penetration until you find the one that suits you and your partner. There is no point in doing something that does not work, besides, clear communication is a major asset.

– To integrate a vibrator For more fun. If the receiving partner has to the vulvathey could use a vibrator on their clitoris during sexual intercourse.

– This should go without saying, but if you’re exploring sex in a new room, make sure the furniture you use for your naughty and nefarious purposes is stable, sturdy, and comfortable.