Let’s talk about sex positions.
Whether you’re just starting out with a new partner or looking to spice things up with an old flame, this series of guides is for you.
Next we have the Solo Cowgirl, not to be confused with the Cowgirl coupledo you hear me? Although the cowgirl position is usually associated with partnered sex, it can also be 100% adapted for personal pleasure.
Cowgirl Solo:
First of all, there are naturally some similarities between solo cowgirl and partner cowgirl. The general idea is the same, but you are, well, solo rather than with a lover. Solo Cowgirl is about taking personal pleasure to the next level.
Cowgirl (AKA Rider) is a position in which the thrusting partner lies on their back, while the receiving partner straddles and mounts them, preparing to ride off into the sunset. To explore Solo Cowgirl, you must therefore embody the receiving/riding partner using toys, pillows, your hands, and/or nothing but your filthy imagination.
While it may not be obvious how to replicate a riding and grinding setup while masturbating, it’s easier than you might think and can be extremely sexually stimulating. Solo Cowgirl is not only rich in possibilities creative fantasyBut for those who find the partnered cowgirl position ineffective or tiring, or who feel self-conscious about being too “exposed,” exploring the position alone can be surprisingly rewarding.
Note on conditions:
When talking about penetration, we use the terms “thrusting partner” for the person with the penis (biological or synthetic) and “receiving partner” for the person accepting the act of penetration (vaginal or anal).
Although this piece is for a solo position, there is nevertheless a discussion of the partnered version included, so this note is still relevant.
It is important to note that being a receiver is not a passive, submissive role. It is an active, enthusiastic role. There is power in choice, and by choosing to invite their partner into themselves, the receiver exercises that power.
Additionally, the thrusting partner is not just a giver. Of course, he or she also receives pleasure during the act. But for the sake of clarity and consistency, we have selected these terms for both sides of the dynamic.
How to do:
To get into position, the Solo Rider kneels on his bed – or any other comfortable and safe surface to kneel on – and straddles a folded pillow, a sex cushiona rolled towel, their fist, their fingers, their favorite sex toyand/or whatever they would like.
Beginners can start by dry humping a pillow, which provides great stimulation of the clitoral hood and labia. To try this, simply let loose and rub your vulva against the lucky pillow.
If you’re ready for toys, the Bellesa Luxe Dildo might just be the perfect Solo Rider toy. It comes in 3 sizes, is perfectly designed for G-spot stimulation, and the suction cup at its base can be securely attached to the floor or wall, or even to a mirror. And then there are revolutionary toy mounts to choose from, like the Wanda Liberator Toy Standor its sister mount, the Where are you now. Both are designed to be used with a wand vibratorand in the latter case, two toys are better than one, so you can equip your makeshift sex machine with a dildo on top and a vibrating wand on the side if you wish. It’s a veritable pleasure palace, and you’re the lone rider, hands free!
Once you’ve chosen your setup, it’s up to you to decide what motion you want in your ocean at that moment. Maybe it’s a slap, a grind, or a bounce. Or maybe it’s a mix of motions. You decide and you set the pace. You decide, baby, so enjoy exploring whatever sensations call to you. All you have to do is lower yourself until you find a sensation that pleases you, whether it’s penetration, clitoris, or both.
Reasons why we love it:
– Being the most active self-pleasure session you can choose, it’s a great workout.
-It’s very stimulating because you are responsible for setting the pace as well as if and how you want to reach orgasm.
-With the right setup, your hands are free to caress yourself to your heart’s content.
-The high level of control associated with direct clitoral stimulation makes orgasm more likely.
-It’s easy to add toys or explore endless creative possibilities.
Variations to try:
Reverse Knight
Take a cue from Missy Elliot and turn things around. This might involve a little fantasy, or changing the angle of the toy you’re using, or rotating your body if you have a toy safely stuck in a holder. If it works, do it.
Leaning Rider
Imagine that there is a partner underneath you and lean forward, resting some of your weight on your hands. This pose is great for extra clitoral stimulation. You may find that leaning on it feels good too.
Rider on the ground
Put your feet on the ground, knees bent, and stimulate yourself with new control: forward, backward, up and down, as you desire. Ground control for a major adventure.
Crushing Rider
Instead of bouncing up and down, try a slow motion. Spread your legs wide apart to get more friction across your entire vulva. You might be surprised what kind of uncharted territory you discover.
Other tips and tricks:
– Explore, pet, pinch, stroke and caress your different erogenous zones while you ride.
– Let yourself be carried away by a fantasy that excites you. Close your eyes and imagine that you are being watched, that you are riding a certain person, or whatever makes you vibrate.
– Explore with and without toys to see what types of sensations you prefer and which ones you would like to combine for maximum effect.
– Wear a anal plug At the same time, for an additional recovery plan, you say that?
There is no right or wrong way to explore Solo Cowgirl. It will be different for everyone, so feeling good and being creative is the way to go. Just try new things and different things sex positions by yourself will bring you that much closer to understanding what is really driving you crazy.