Money Talk – But in many relationships, it keeps suspiciously quiet.
A new survey by Casinos Analyzer found that 41% admit to spending sneakily behind their partner – 57% said it blows up their relationship.
Experts call this dark little trend financial infidelity.
That’s right – not just hexagons and secret flights.
Lies on your salary, hide debt or “forget” to mention a $300 Sephora shipping can be just as harmful.
So if you’re sneaking on your credit card behind Bae, you’re probably cheating – just a receipt instead of a lipstick.
As Illinois Central Administration Services noted, financial infidelity is “a person in a firm relationship keeps the financial secrets in touch with another.”
Jaime Bronstein of LCSW, a licensed relationship therapist and casino analyzer expert, explained in the study that this infidelity “whether it is a hidden purchase, undervalued debt or quietly overspending, it can be as harmful as any other form of betrayal.”
Just like cheating on a bedroom or DMS, betrayal can also shock your partner, be rejected, and blame yourself for the overall chaos.
This is more common than you think.
As the Post previously reported, half of the men are playing financial hide-and-seek with their partners, hiding the secrets of money like an account bank account.
In a survey of 2,000 men, almost one in half were hooked up or combined, who admitted to rogue with their financial situation – the most common secret move was a hidden savings account (14%). Others remain silent about reckless spending (13%) or secret credit cards (12%).
About a quarter said they were too embarrassed or ashamed to surrender, while nearly 20% claimed they “just don’t know how to raise it.”
It turns out that this may be not only an introvert, but also a stress. As many as 48% of men say they think it is necessary to succeed financially, with more than half of them blaming their expectations, while 27% pointing toward society.
The study, conducted by Ferther Finance for Ner’s Mental Health Month and by Talker Research, shows what happens when cash and shame occur.
In previous research, Brownstein stressed that financial infidelity “slashes trust and leaves a partner in the dark, often feeling something wrong without knowing the reason.”
The person he continues to move forward is usually “the second guess their intuition and may not share their feelings.”
He warned that over time, this could create “emotional distance and disconnects that are difficult to bridge.”
If it doesn’t sound ideal, the therapist recommends “talking about spending, even if it’s uncomfortable” because it’s “a way for couples to start reconnecting, rather than having to fix their financial situations, but to better understand each other.”
Ultimately, it’s “the way you build trust,” he stressed.