The hidden truth in first date conversation – Dating

We always look for Obvious red flags When dating someone new, silence or avoidance can be a subtle issue that many men and women don’t pay enough attention to. Being secretive about certain conversations or refusing to talk can be a big warning sign that they are hiding something or are afraid to share with you.

What they don’t say is just as important as what they do say.

Most people show you their true nature early on, and this is the most important time to understand their behavior. On a date, listen to what they say, watch their body language, and pay attention to how they treat you and other people.

Do they make eye contact with you, or do they look around? When people are being dishonest, they have a hard time looking you in the eye, or they may stare at you to prove or exaggerate a point they are trying to make. This can also be an intimidation tactic to control your attention and gain your trust.

Understanding Early Dating Dynamics!

Observing early discussions is important and can Make or break a choice Second date. When the connection between the two of you is at a level of mutual communication, you won’t have to work so hard to get the other person to open up. The communication between you should feel comfortable and natural.

Dating is all about getting to know someone, but some people think that when their date is quiet and reserved, they appear interesting and mysterious! A little mystery can be tempting, but not at the expense of ignoring who they really are. Take your time and get to know them before making blind guesses about who they are.

Some people tend to be more reserved on their first few dates, but this is where you need to know the difference between someone who is naturally shy and someone who is coy and unwilling to be candid. Whenever you doubt someone’s sincerity, listen to your gut. It’s rarely wrong!

They may avoid discussing important topics during the first few dates..

1. When asked if they’re looking for a committed relationship, they’ll redirect the question to something else or tell you they’re not sure what they’re looking for at this point. (If they tell you they just ended a relationship, that’s a big red flag that they’re not ready for anything other than casual dating.)
2. They won’t say anything nice about their ex and will brush off even the simplest of discussions as if their relationship never existed. I’m certainly not in favor of talking about exes on the first few dates, but it’s another red flag when past situations pop up and there’s a clear disrespect for their ex.
3. They have no idea about their future plans and they don’t know what to do. Forget about a five-year plan. They don’t even have a two-month plan!
4. You are the one who constantly dominates the conversation, while your date responds with short, short sentences that don’t allow for a responsive discussion.
5. You notice the defensive body language response to any private conversation. They are closed off.
6. There was a disconnect between the two sides when discussing any personal topic. They came across as lacking in affection.
7. They avoid talking about many things, but are open to any topic related to sex.
8. Their text messages are vague and they sound cautious or careful when speaking. They may also take a long time to respond to your texts, which makes you feel like you’re not being taken seriously. (When someone is genuinely excited to get to know you, they keep communication open and conversation friendly. They won’t leave you waiting or feeling left out!)

Not everyone you date will be mutually beneficial with you.

You date people to get to know them and see if you’re a good match. You hope to meet someone who is compatible with you. It’s important to understand that you won’t hit it off with everyone you meet. If you rarely make it past a first date, taking things too personally can put you in trouble for a long time and do serious damage to your self-esteem.

Put aside your ego and be honest with each other about what didn’t happen on the date. You have to understand each other in order to move forward. Even if you don’t, it’s okay. It’s much better to find out early than to waste your time on someone who doesn’t like you.

Vary who you date and watch for recurring patterns that don’t work for you.

Many men and women have a type, and this is what keeps them stuck. They keep repeating the same unhealthy choices, and always end up in another short-lived, unfulfilling situation.

Dating is definitely not an easy thing these days, and you will naturally need to go through a learning process. Knowing when to walk away from the wrong situation will get you closer to meeting an awesome partner. Putting your energy into healthy dating choices will eventually put you on the right path. Believe in yourself and believe that love will find you. Be clear about what you are looking for in a life partner.

In my coaching experience, there are three things that aren’t right with many men and women on dates:

1. They didn’t give their employees a chance because the maintenance checklist was too overwhelming. They moved on too quickly.
2. Many men and women do everything based on physical attractiveness.
3. They spend too much time with someone who has no interest in them and run every red light without any caution.

When you date or decide to be in a relationship, you need to have self-respect and healthy boundaries.

People become very insecure because of judgmental attitudes!

If you’re just as picky and judgmental as everyone else, then who would want to be in a potential relationship with someone else? This is part of the problem today and why so many people are tired of dating.

If everyone starts making critical comments about their date within the first 10 minutes of meeting them, do you think it’s fair to make such comments so early? This will destroy any chance of a successful relationship because you’re already condemning it before it even begins.

Being a Savvy Dater: You look at things holistically, focusing on important human rites rather than just thinking about how sexually attracted you are to them. Sexual intimacy is always important, but it’s not the only factor in a good partnership. You also understand that building a balanced, long-term commitment with someone requires more substance.

If you are working on building a strong foundation, then enjoying each other’s company and having fun together is essential. Strong chemistry is not enough to maintain a healthy, committed relationship. You must Really like each other Same here! Pay attention during the first few dates and don’t ignore your inner voice. Your intuition is your best friend in all areas of life!

I love to hear from both men and women and will take the time to get back to you. Please leave your comments below! Do you have anything you can share that might help others?

grateful You, Sybersue xo <3

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