Swinging saved our marriage – now we help other couples

A couple who claim a swing saved their relationship are now helping other couples get back together – despite online trolls telling them they are tearing people apart.

Jem Jones, 44, and her partner Daz, 41, started exploring “ethical non-monogamy” five years into their relationship – because they had always been interested in it.

The pair loved making their relationship public so they could sleep with other couples – but once the pressure of starting a business together took over, they stopped rocking the boat.

But after realizing their relationship was in trouble, they started rocking it again – and feel it saved their relationship.

Now, they “give back” and help other couples in the bedroom – providing them with guidance on the swinging community, if they so choose.

Although some say swinging is “cheating” and is “breaking up marriages,” Jem and Daz love the lifestyle and hope to continue changing people’s perceptions.

Jem, a content creator from Bournemouth, Dorset, said: “Swinging has really saved us – mentally and restored that connection.

“People saw it as cheating and said we were ‘breaking up the marriage’.

“People are angry about things they don’t understand.

“We’re having the best time of our forties.”

Jem and Daz met on Tinder in June 2015 and hit it off immediately.

Jem said: “I had just come out of a marriage and was continuing to have some fun.

“I didn’t expect to find someone with whom I had a close connection.”

The two always have an adventurous spirit in the bedroom.

Jem said: “I had my first threesome when I was 16.

“Daz is always fun in the bedroom.

“We’ve always talked about having an open relationship.

“But for the first five years, we were unique.”

After they had been together for five years, Jem decided to bring up the idea of ​​an open relationship.

Daz said: “I had never been in an open relationship before.

“We’ve both been in monogamous relationships and it didn’t work out.”

After agreeing to get involved in the field, Jem takes Daz to a swinging event to get his Christmas gift.

Jem said: “It was a lovely mansion and exclusive parties. It had a sex dungeon and swimming pool.

“It was shocking, but it opened our eyes to this whole new world.

“We had a kiss with another couple and it really turned us on. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other for two weeks.

“Our relationship is very strong – it’s exciting and fun to explore.

“We were slow to get in.”

Over the next few years, Jem and Daz slowly began exploring more of the swinging community—eventually engaging in full-blown swapping with other couples.

Daz admitted that he did deal with jealousy issues at first, but he was always honest with Jem.

He said: “We had to deal with feelings of jealousy after our first relationship with another couple.

“Me and Jem were very confrontational – I said ‘I don’t like this and you like it too much’.

“But I realized that as a human being, I consider other people’s thoughts.

“These feelings of jealousy are always there – but they have no control over me.

“It won’t affect our relationship.”

But when they launched a contracting business together in 2021, swinging took a back seat.

Jem said: “It put a huge strain on our relationship.

“Business takes over our lives.”

But in 2023, Jem realizes their relationship is in trouble and talks to Daz about getting back into swinging.

She said: “I said ‘we used to hang out together’, ‘we used to go to these sex parties’.

“Let’s get back to enjoying life and each other.”

They decided to go to a club to get back into a “sexy environment” and make friends.

For now, the couple makes sure to take time to enjoy each other and the swinging community.

They mix it up with full swaps, parties and events, and having “real” fans-only accounts.

“We’re not just going out looking for opportunities to have sex with people,” Jem said.

“We date couples and then go out for the weekend with swinging friends.

“We want to tell people – this works for us and it can work for you.”

The couple now often has others come to them for advice.

Jem, who is also a certified coach, says, “You don’t have to go the swing route.

“We’re talking to couples and helping them reconnect – helping them talk about their fantasies in the bedroom.”

“There are a lot of couples our age where the energy of the early relationship has been lost – through career, family or other things,” Daz said.

“People started looking elsewhere for excitement and desire.

“As a couple, you can explore a whole lifestyle.

“It brings people together. It keeps the excitement going.

“The alternative is to cheat — physically or mentally.

“A lot of broken relationships could have been saved.”

Jem and Daz want to encourage couples to talk to each other about their sexual desires.

“It’s a journey to explore – everyone has their own level,” Daz said.

“You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.”

“The key is to keep talking about it,” Jem said.