Step 8 – Sex and Relationship Repair

The two most powerful fighters are patience and time.

Step 8 is: “Make a list of all the people we have hurt and be willing to make amends to them.” So the work in Step 8 is divided into two parts: (1) making a list of the people we have hurt and how we have hurt them, and (2) being willing to make amends when the time comes. Please note: Step 8 is not where we actually make amends. That is Step 9. We should not discuss the list and preparation for Step 8 with our sponsor, therapist, or spiritual advisor before we begin Step 9. Rushing to make amends when the time comes often leads to problems—problems that require more amends. So we need to be patient, make the list, and discuss it in detail before moving on.

Today’s Task
Whatever you are facing or craving, be willing to wait for the right time.