Six tips for happiness – Sex and relationship recovery

Dr. Robert Weiss, LCSW

In today’s world, many people are so focused on winning the well-known race of rats that they forget what really matters in their lives. First, happiness is happiness in these forgotten lives. We focus on money. We focus on status. We focus on wearing clothes in a certain way, driving a specific car, seeing it in a certain social circle.

Unfortunately, most of our time and effort are spent on the curtains. They did not bring happiness. In fact, they usually distract from happiness, which may be why so many seemingly high-functioning, very successful people find themselves engaged in treatments, addiction treatments, failed relationships, etc.

So what is the answer to all of these dissatisfactions? The real answer, not the superficial answer that looks good in the eyes of others. A simple fact is that there is no answer, but most people find the following suggestions helpful.

Accept imperfection – in yourself and others

On the surface, our world seems to need perfection. Unfortunately, no one is perfect. Anyway, who can define perfection? After all, each of us is unique and each of us does our best. It doesn’t matter. When we were at our best, it was great. When we are not at our best, just do it. Everyone has flaws, everyone makes mistakes. So maybe we should stop beating ourselves and others. Better yet, we may want to see our failures and mistakes as learning experiences that can help us grow and become better people. This is a mindset of embracing the growth through the joy of learning, which can provide us with good service in every aspect of life.

connect

Like it or not, we need emotional intimacy with others. When we feel connected to others, we are healthier, more successful and happier. So even if you’re busy, you have to contact others and all you have to do is send quick texts to let someone know you’re thinking about them. If you have more time, meet someone for coffee or lunch or take a walk in the park. The happier you will have, the more friendly, fun, supportive social connections you have.

Turn “love” into action words

When you love someone action Reflect this love. Of course, it’s nice to tell someone you love them, but action is better than eloquence. The good news is that you don’t need to show love with extravagant gestures. In fact, small things tend to make more sense in the end. So listen to what someone says and try to actually hear it. Remember the dates and events that matter to that person. If someone is on the calendar, make sure it is on your calendar too. Most importantly, spend time with them. Do something they like or help a task they don’t like. And make sure you invite them to your favorite events. If the other person understands that your goal is to spend time together, it doesn’t matter what you do together.

Stop judging yourself and others

Sadly, our society is highly judged. If you don’t believe me, turn on the TV. The whole world is very busy telling us how to look, how to dress up, how to act, and who we should be. If that was just stopping and we were free to be who we are, wouldn’t that be great? Well, for that, we have to give ourselves a break first, because we are the worst criminals – mainly because we compare the flawed interior with the outside of other people’s spray guns. And, if we want to stop judging ourselves, should we also stop judging others? Reward: When we stop judging others, we send out positive resonances that others find extremely attractive.

Choose happiness over negative

Abraham Lincoln once said, “Most people will be as happy as they make up their minds.” Lincoln’s words are as appropriate today as they were when they first said it. We are what we think. If we think negative thoughts, our prospects will reflect this. If we choose to think about positive thoughts, it will also show up. In this regard, it may certainly be a useful tool. Starting our day with three “happiness” affirmations may go a long way toward actual happiness. Try statements like “I am a happy person” and “I enjoy my life” and “This life is a wonderful life”. It doesn’t help that saying these and similar affirmations will have a positive impact when you look at the mirror at least every day. Yes, I know this looks cliché, but if you take happiness seriously, you’ll give it a try.

Search and express thanks

Many people declare that starting their day with ten titles of gratitude is the key to their happiness. In fact, there is a lot of research that can support this. First, Dr. Brené Brown examines the roots of happiness through thousands of in-depth interviews, through which she identified a major difference between happy people and unhappy people. Happy people express gratitude for what they have, while unhappy people do not. So if we can find something that we have grateful for (rather than focusing on what we have lost or never had), then there is a good chance that we can find happiness. Further research on gratitude tells us to express gratitude to those who tend to focus on their strengths rather than their weaknesses. Therefore, they are more promising, less stressed, less likely to fall into shame and depression, and are more likely to recover from serious life problems (diseases, addiction, etc.). So no matter how painful we are, gratitude is a powerful drug.

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