Sexting 101: A Guide to Getting Started with Sexting | Aldult Toys Blog

Sexting doesn’t come naturally to everyone. And that’s totally normal—I was really nervous the first few times I did it. When you say something during sex, everything becomes a blur in the heat of the moment. But seeing it in black and white, well, it can feel downright awkward. I felt like everything I said was really stupid… or so explicit that I should be arrested. But being stuck across the ocean from the guy I was seeing for an entire month meant I had to pick myself up and take the plunge—and I never looked back. Because once you get over the initial awkwardness, sexting can be great for your relationship and your self-esteem.

First of all, I thought sending sexy pictures would make me feel intimidated and self-conscious, but I actually found it very empowering. Plus, it will be great to have the pictures to look back on when my private parts are no longer all where they used to be. Secondly, it is a great way to keep the passion alive in your relationship, whether you are stuck in different places or just during a busy time. It’s nice to be able to keep an intimate and sexual spark alive when you might not otherwise be able to.

So how do you make this work for you? Here’s how to create an impactful sext:

1. Don’t be afraid to be specific

Sexting is all about description. Yes, it may sound weird to write things like, “Your cock is rock hard” or “I want to fuck you from behind,” but if you don’t go into detail, you’ll quickly run out of steam. And remember, they’re horny, so they’re going to love reading your message, no matter how detailed it is.

2. Refer to real cases

If you’re tongue-tied or suffering from a loss of imagination, you can always use real memories. By saying, “I can’t stop thinking about this morning” or “I want you to fuck me like you did on Saturday,” you don’t even have to invent a fantasy and you’re confirming how amazing your sex life already is.

3. Don’t send unsolicited photos

Even if you’re sexting someone, make sure you only send pictures if you’re sure the person wants to at that moment. Either because they asked for it, you know them well enough, or you know they’re not in a place where it’s going to be a problem. No one wants strangers on the bus seeing your naked pictures.

4. Establish a level of trust first

This is especially true if you’re sending photos, but it’s also important for any type of sexting. You want to make sure that you’re okay with this person having access to your words and photos, even if things go south between you. Think about it for a moment.

5. Don’t worry too much about presentation

Sometimes you might go from “I want you to ride your dick” to “You lick my pussy” to “I imagine your hard cock in my mouth” — it’s totally normal to jump from one tense to the next, from one description to the next, from one movement to the next. This is sexting, not Hemingway. Don’t get hung up on the details.

6. Have fun with it

Just like you would in bed, you can tease, you can delay gratification, you can flirt. There are so many options, so make sure you play around as much as you would during regular sex. This will make sexting more fun and the outcome much more intense.

7. Don’t overuse emojis

I really shouldn’t have to say this, but I do. Sure, emojis can be useful if that’s how you and this person like to communicate, but only in moderation. Saying “I want to eat your pussy 😉 😉 😉 😉 ;)” is just plain annoying. Use the emoji instead of something playful or explicit, or don’t use it at all. The combination is too weird.

8. Use language you are comfortable with

I would say that being totally explicit can be very sexy, but if you don’t agree, that’s okay too. You can always stick to “I can’t stop thinking about touching you” or “I love the way it feels when you’re inside me” to avoid using language that makes you uncomfortable. The main thing is to make yourself feel sexy!

9. Don’t stress if you say something stupid.

Maybe something you type doesn’t make sense. Maybe it’s a big typo. Maybe it was just plain weird. Whatever it is, don’t worry. Just like mistakes during sex, most of them will be forgotten in a second or two, if they were ever noticed at all.

Conclusion

Sexting can be intimidating at first, but it doesn’t have to be. Once you get the hang of it, you’ll find that it’s a great way to keep the spark alive in your relationship when you can’t see each other. And more than that, it might help you realize what a sexy, powerful creature you are. Because it can make you feel sexy as hell, when you do it right.