Women should “date at least three men at the same time” and avoid sex so they don’t “get attached” before assessing who is right for them, a relationship expert has said.
Kayleigh Castle, 35, is a dating and life coach who has been sharing her top tips with women for the past three years to help them avoid mistaking “chemical rush for connection”.
When it comes to dating, Kelly insists people “are too quick” to rush into relationships or become exclusive.
She claims women should date at least three men at the same time – adding that dating does not equal sex and women should avoid intimacy during the dating stage.
Kelly compared dating to buying a house, saying “you have to look at the property multiple times and check the foundation before you go to bed.”
Kelly, from Huddersfield, West Yorkshire, said: “As soon as I say the word ‘date’ people think I mean sex.”
“People think I’m telling women they can sleep with whoever they want, but dating is about evaluation.
“The reason I tell women to date at least three people at a time is that women are chemically easier to fall in love and become attached to than men.
“We mistook the chemistry for a connection.
“We need time – if you’re dating multiple guys at the same time, you’re not devoting your time to one person.”
Kelly says her advice is nothing new and that older generations would date multiple people at once to bond.
She said: “This is our history as women, going back to our grandparents.
“My grandma is in her 90s – when it comes to dating, they meet multiple men to see which one is right.
“They realize it takes time to get to know a person.”
Kelly suggests that if singles date multiple men at the same time, the “weakest” men will eliminate themselves over time.
She also advocates against physical contact, adding that men will stay for two reasons: if they have a connection, and to give him sex.
“You’re getting to know these people, take the time to get to know them because the weakest link will always eliminate itself over time,” Kelly said.
“The only men who stick around are if they really like you and you connect or you give them sex.”
“That’s why I say people shouldn’t have sex on dates.
“People have this expectation that they have access to my body.”
Kelly said people became xenophobic “too quickly” and attributed it to “need”.
She claimed that dating is like buying a house and people don’t rush through the process when buying a house.
“When we buy a house, we go into the house and maybe look at it a few times to check that everything is OK,” Kelly said.
“The surveyors will be walking around and we won’t rush through the process – we’ll take our time.
“Do we think other people are looking at the house? Yes, yes, but are we sleeping in the bed? No, we don’t.
“We are looking at the foundation’s investment and checking whether it is a suitable home.
“I say to women, time is your best friend.”
Kylie’s dating schedule–
0-3 months: getting to know each other
3-6 months: Treat him as a friend – the foundation of a healthy relationship is friendship
6-9 months: That’s when you think “Okay, this could be something more”