I often hear this concern from clients: Life has become routine and the sex that was satisfying when they first met has become boring.

Many busy couples have a hard time making love twice a week. As common as the lack of sex life is, many of them want to try some methods to rekindle the passion, including so-called kinks.

The word “kink” is interesting. One of the definitions of “kink” is “strange or unconventional sexual preferences or behaviors.” It seems to me that many people imagine things that are not particularly weird or unconventional.

For example America’s top couple fantasy: threesome. It’s a great fantasy (and some couples turn it into reality), but getting another person into bed is much harder than using sex toys or trying new positions. Whatever kink you want to introduce into your relationship, you can apply these 3 steps:

Step #1 Think about it

Think about how your significant other would feel about something you’re interested in. Try to be compassionate as you think about them. How were they raised? What has their experience as a sexual person been like over the years? Your sensitivity to their feelings and past experiences will help you have a conversation that doesn’t make them feel ambushed or criticized. It’s perfectly okay to have desires and fantasies, but think about them before you bring them up.

Second step discussion

Schedule a time to talk to your partner about your sex life when you’re both relaxed. Make sure you have enough privacy so you can talk freely. Tell them how much you love them and that you want to talk about how your relationship is going. Ask them how they feel about your sex life. Who knows—they might feel the same way you do. Make sure they know you want to talk about it because you want things to be better than they are right now.

Step #3 Start with something simple

Hopefully, your conversation goes well and you’re both willing to make some fun changes. Talk to him or her about how they feel about things you don’t normally do together. If they’re willing, maybe keep the idea of a threesome as a fantasy without going through with it. Sexy shopping can make a great field trip or virtual activity for a special date night. Or you could do some sexy petting or a sexy bath.

Whatever you do, be compassionate and understanding. Your relationship is worth it. You can always contact me [email protected]or by arrangement Free Chat If you need support.

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