Relationship Blog – Dr Jane Guyn

The long drives to and from California reminded me of the fast-paced times of my own teenage years.
Some memories are really good, and others not so good.

I reminisced about the good times I had as a teenager in Southern California, like just being able to get outside to watch the sunrise at the beach with friends. he.

I also reflected on my dual identity as a “popular” girl: on the one hand, I received attention because I was cute, and on the other hand, I felt extremely insecure about my body and felt that I was not good enough. A high school teacher who seduced me. A terrible argument between my parents. A hurtful comment about my body that my then-boyfriend accidentally made during an intimate encounter hit me in a vulnerable place and haunted me for years.

Has anything similar happened in your life?

I saw it in my reactions—the way I held myself back. I recognized it when I burst into tears, when I was least able to express my feelings.

I have trauma qualifications.

Of course, my trauma is not as severe as yours, his, or hers.

My trauma is my own. Your trauma is yours. Our task is to not let our trauma define us. To not let the past destroy the present. To not let the past destroy us.

I have been trying to heal over the years. The memories no longer stay in my body like they did when I was younger. But this recent memory reminded me that even the smallest things can be painful, depending on where you are in your life at the time.. Do you understand what I mean?

Not only have I done my own healing work, but I feel honored to do work that I love—teaching you how to release trauma and other body shame, how to open up in your sensual and intimate life, and how to talk to loved ones about what you want.

One of the methods I offer to help release trauma is 5-PATH hypnosis, which can be done in person or virtually. It is an amazing method. Make an appointment for a free consultation callwe can discuss whether hypnotherapy is right for you.

Together we learn to let go of the toxic shame that comes with traumatic experiences.

Progress. That’s the reward.

Big hugs,

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PS: Also, I’ve been reading Coming Together: The Science (and Art!) of Building Lasting Relationships by Emily Nagoski. I’m really enjoying this book and learning a lot about the way she thinks about/references happiness. I’m sure we’ll talk more about this influential book later, but I wanted to share in real time…

Are you reading any books you would like to recommend to others? Sharing is caring.