Redefine gender, so it’s easier and better for both of you

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On Tuesday, I said your wife’s needs are effective, even if they are different. What about her sexual needs?

Even if a woman is all sex, it is not as high as most men on her list. Often, sex does not make women feel loved. Instead, she wanted to have sex because she felt loved. Beyond that, if you have higher motivation, she may rarely have full desire. Maybe when she didn’t feel it, she said it out of love or obligation. Otherwise she doesn’t say it at first, and then once she gets close to wanting it, she will say yes.

This is very different from your reality. Can you imagine what she must be like? Can you see how it will affect her sexually? There are other things, what if she should orgasm every time she has sex? What if you expect from her and make it clear that if you are the only one who comes, that’s not a good sex act?

The real problem is the bias of most of us towards constitutive composition. If we have a broader perspective, it would be easier and better for both spouses to have sex.

Sex should be an activity performed by a couple, including nature contact. It can last for a minute or an hour, or anywhere in between. It should include the climax that each spouse wants, and zero is the valid number. Each spouse should be free to decide at any moment during a sexual act if they do not want orgasm in this case.

If that’s how your wife sees sex and she knows you see sex the same way, it’s easier for her to say to sex. It’s also easier for her to start having sex. Even if she just does it for you.

How do you define gender restrictions or ways of hurting your sexual life?

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