Let’s cut to the chase: Are you stimulating your prostate? If so, congratulations. If not, I’m here to tell you that you should.
This little gland may be small, but it packs a powerful punch and should not be underestimated. This guide will help you understand how the prostate works and all the benefits it has for sexual and general health. You’re about to become a P-spot expert!
First, let’s debunk a common myth: interest in anal pleasure and prostate stimulation isn’t unique to the LGBTQIA+ community. While straight men have long been stigmatized for their love of butts, prostate pleasure is purely anatomical. Let’s celebrate this desire for pleasure and self-exploration!
Now that we have that out of the way, let’s get down to business.
What is the prostate and where can I find it?
The prostate is a small, soft, walnut-sized organ that is part of the male reproductive system. It lies deep in the pelvis between the penis and bladder and is is located on the other side of the rectum. You can find it by placing a finger into the rectum and curling the fingertip toward the front of the body (think of the same “come hither” motion that is used on the G-spot). When arousedThe prostate swells as it fills with fluid released during ejaculation. So it’s easier to identify when a familiar pleasure is added to the mix.
How do you feel ?
The short answer is: well. The P-spot can be compared to the G-spot for vulva owners. Stimulation of the prostate leads to more powerful orgasms as well as more intense intercourse because it activates the deep muscles of the pelvic floor and sphincter during orgasm.
Just like the G-spot, many people enjoy other forms of simultaneous stimulation (for example, clitoral stimulation combined with penetration), so try pairing prostate play with penile stimulation for more intense and expansive orgasms.
Where to start?
As with all forms of butt stuff, it’s a process.
1. Prepare the ground. Clean the outside of your anus with soap and water, then go to the bathroom and flush out any waste. You can also try a vaginal douche or enema to help prepare yourself.
2. Relax. These are tight muscles, so you’re going to need to relax them. The best way to do that? Foreplay! Everything from kissing to oral sex to solo sex. And think about some external butt play.
3. LUBRICANT. Whether you start small with fingers or work your way up to bigger objects, lube is always your friend.
4. Slowly but surely. Even if you’ve done all the preparations, it may take some time to feel comfortable. So be patient with yourself and/or your partner and keep an open line of communication to ensure everyone has a good time.
5. Find point P. Before you jump into anal play, do some exploring and make sure you can identify the prostate. Once you’re familiar with the geography and key pleasure points, you can start having a little more fun with it 🙂
6. Start small. Starting with your fingers is a great step! As you get more comfortable, you can progress to experimenting with a Anal Training Kit, vibrating toys, anal beads, anal plugsand beyond!
And there you have it, you are now ready to begin your journey into the world of prostate play!