Pregnant mother refuses husband’s request and name the baby when she is late

A soon-to-be mom burns Reddit after refusing her husband’s plea to name the late wife and baby, who died tragically in childbirth eight years ago.

Original poster 34 explains that she initially asked her husband to choose the middle name of the baby – but soon realized that the name he chose belongs to his late spouse.

“I don’t want to hurt her feelings because I don’t want to hurt her feelings because I don’t disagree in front of my stepdaughter,” she wrote on the infamous AITA forum this week.

Tensions boiled as the couple tried to add a second middle name (the name of his late child).

The woman left the house and lived with her sister for a week, telling her husband, “I don’t want my kids to have the same name as the woman I always compare.”

Her husband reportedly pushed back and insisted: “These names are important to me and I really hope they’re part of their life.”

OP added that while she asked her husband to choose a name, she drew the lines in the middle.

“I don’t care, I don’t want my kids to have these names,” she wrote, recounting how to have a discussion about baby showering at her sister’s home.

She told Redditors that she didn’t want her daughter to be constantly compared to a woman that could never be replaced.

The debate in the thread was intense, and the commentator overwhelmed the poster of pregnancy. “NTA. Imagine your children growing up and they realize they are named after their father’s late child and partner. They will feel like they are just a replacement,” one person wrote.

Another added: “NTA – It’s an unhealthy to take it seriously. This child has nothing to do with the late wife and the child. It’s a hill and I’m ready to die.”

Several users call up husbands to project sadness onto the newborn, making the mother feel like a permanent “footnote” throughout her life.

One Reddit wrote: “Absolutely NTA. This is your baby girl, not a replacement for your unfortunate wife and daughter.”

As previously reported by the post, a bride-to-be debate earlier this spring sparked a similar Reddit debate with plans to wear the late husband’s wedding ring on the chain during the upcoming wedding.

Her fiancé admitted in his AITA post that he supported her through grief but struggled in the tribute, noting that she “still visit his grave on his birthday and she put his stuff in our closet.”

One commenter in the thread said bluntly: “Your wedding is essentially… about your relationship, her late husband shouldn’t be a part of it.”

As the Internet continues to argue about how much it is on the ghost side of the past, the verdict is clear: some memories belong to the heart, not the birth certificate or the day of the wedding.