Praise Kink 101 | Aldult Toys Blog

Praise kink, also called “affirmation play,” has gained more attention in recent years, but it’s still not well understood by many.

Most of us would admit that receiving compliments makes us feel good. Whether it’s a compliment on our appearance, our performance, or our personality, recognition and approval are generally welcomed by everyone.

But what about those who identify as having a penchant for praise? What exactly are we talking about here?

What is a praise kink?

Feeling adored and desired – in one way or another – are essential parts of the erotic experience.

A person who has a penchant for praise does not only like praise. go down being praised, flattered, or receiving verbal approval. For those with this inclination, receiving praise can actually trigger a sexual response. Although praise-related inclinations are, unsurprisingly, more common among submitted, dominants may also be aroused by praise. There is probably some degree of crossover between those who have a penchant for praise and those whose primary language of love East words of affirmation.

It is important to understand, however, that the inclinations toward praise do not simply stop at including praise for what you do. Although praise is a common component of most power playif you have this inclination, it tends to become the primary objective. True kink is an important, even necessary, part of sexual pleasure.

Of course, as with all kinks, worship kinks can be very contextual. While some may find it hot, or even someone else compliment them, others find that their inclination is more directly oriented towards those with whom they have a connection, attraction and/or relationship.

Although praise is generally considered a softer side of BDSM, This is not always the case. As with all problems, it is what you make of it!

The Psychology of Praise Kink

In the context of worship, subtlety is not really a consideration. Rather, it is about giving or receiving the kind of direct worship that most of us could use more of.

After all, we live in a world where we are constantly bombarded with messages telling us that we are not good enough, smart enough, attractive enough, thin enough, strong enough, alpha enough, sexy enough, competent enough. You get the idea.

Praise can focus on skills, something that is usually important in D/s relationships. Others find that they respond strongly to compliments about a specific behavior or body part. That said, you can also focus on a person’s value. For example, they haven’t just perfected their cunnilingus skills; they’re the kind of person who works hard and strives for perfection.

It’s no surprise that people who are service-oriented and like to please sometimes have a penchant for compliments. The very activities that show how much they care can also earn them compliments. Compliments can put those on the submissive side into a sort of euphoric state, making them even more obedient.

Another reason why some people are drawn to complimentary fetishes is the embarrassing element. For some, accepting a compliment or receiving kind words can be a bit embarrassing. For others, the experience can even border on humiliation. For some, complimentary fetishes can act as an extension of erotic humiliationwith the humiliation resulting from not being able to accept kind words.

Try this psychology to see if I’m right? The fact is, we all have a variety of complex psychosexual needs. As long as you and your partner are both on board, praise kink is safe to explore. No need to overthink it!

Phrases of Praise for Inspired Use

Ultimately, the best way to know which praise and kink phrases will work for you or your partner is to ask them and/or experiment. consensually.

But while voluntary communication will get you further than a random list, if you’re not sure where to start, here are a few to get your engine revving.

– You’re such a good girl/boy/slut/pet/their favorite term of endearment.

– You’re doing really well.

– You are so beautiful/handsome/sexy when you [insert activity].

– I’m so proud of you.

– I love how you took that. spanking.

– It’s amazing, keep it up.

– I love it when you [insert activity].

– I can’t stop thinking about when you [insert hot or sexy thing they did].

– Your ass looks amazing with that cheeky.

– You are so good at [eating my pussy/sucking my cock/fucking me/insert activity].

– I can’t wait to show you to everyone.

– You are strong, I know you can handle it for me.

– You are so loved and cherished.

– You have a fantastic body.

– Your calves are driving me crazy.

– I love your breasts.

– You have the perfect cock.

– What a perfect pout.

– You have the cutest smile.

– You have perfect lips for kiss.

– I can’t stop thinking about your ass.

– You always dress to excite me.

– You are sex personified.

– You always know exactly what I need.

– I’m proud of you.

– You listen so well.

– That’s it.

– Look at you.

– Just like that.

– Good, now faster.

– You feel amazing.

– Everyone will know you’re mine when you wear it [accessory].

– You really know how to use your [body part].

– Your [body part] It feels good.

– Tell me who you are (ask your partner to compliment themselves).

Again, the above phrases are just starting points. You’ll probably come up with more as you go. The only good way to explore worship kink (and really, any kink) is to try things out and find what works for you and your partner! <3