Pleasure and pregnancy: the benefits of using a vibrator

Is it safe to use a vibrator while pregnant? If you’ve ever been pregnant and have asked yourself this question, you’re not alone. And the answer is YES, you can definitely use a vibrator while pregnant. In fact, being pregnant can change your sex drive; some people experience a spike in their libido, especially during the second trimester, while others have a lower than usual libido throughout their pregnancy. It just depends on the person. If you’re one of those with a higher libido, masturbation is completely normal and safe. Sex toys like dildos and vibrators are safe to use during pregnancy.

While it’s always wise to avoid going too deep into your vagina with a sex toy (and you should never use a toy with sharp edges that hurt), you don’t have to worry about puncturing the placenta or hurting your baby. The mucus plug and amniotic fluid safely seal off the uterus—and your baby—from the outside world. As the American Pregnancy Association explains, “Unless your healthcare provider tells you otherwise, you and your partner should be able to enjoy sex during your pregnancy. Pay attention to your body and make adjustments as needed to fully enjoy the experience.” This includes solo sex, too.

If you’re still on the fence about masturbating while pregnant, here are some undeniable benefits of getting the vibe while the little one is inside.

1. It relieves stress: When you reach orgasm after masturbating, your body releases oxytocin, which is a natural stress reliever.

2. Orgasms may be more intense during pregnancy: Orgasms experienced during pregnancy are a step above normal orgasms, which means extra pleasure.

3. It’s a great alternative to sex: Your growing belly or a health problem may prevent you from having sex or make it difficult for you, that’s when masturbation can come to your rescue.

4. It can relieve pregnancy symptoms: Some of the least pleasant aspects of pregnancy are symptoms like morning sickness, swollen feet, back pain, etc. Having an orgasm can naturally relieve the pain of these symptoms.

5. It can help you sleep: When a growing belly makes it difficult to sleep, you can rely on masturbation, as orgasms lower blood pressure and release endorphins that can help you sleep.

6. It can make labor easier: A strong pelvic floor can be beneficial during labor and delivery. Masturbation and orgasms can strengthen your pelvic floor.

7. It can make you love your body: You may feel a little disconnected from your pregnant body because of all the changes your body is going through. Masturbating and exploring yourself can help you feel connected to your body and love it again.

8. Besides these benefits, some doctors also believe that babies can be soothed or comforted by the rhythmic contractions caused by orgasms!

With all these benefits, you’ll probably want to treat yourself. However, as your belly grows and changes, the rest of your body will also change, which might make self-pleasure more difficult.

Because I’m more of a “stay ready so you don’t have to get ready” kind of person, here are some pregnancy masturbation tips for when those awkward moments hit:

1. Keep your sex toys close by

Keep your favorite toys and chargers handy. When it comes to sex, using sex toys during pregnancy can be more enjoyable. You can incorporate toys into sex by making them easily accessible to your partner.

2. Use lubricants

Vaginal dryness is common among many pregnant women. Applying a lubricant can improve the overall experience, as it tends to make the genitals more sensitive. I recommend a water-based lubricant.

3. Take all the time you need

Due to the changes in your body, your masturbation experience may be different than it was before. For some, it may take longer to get into the mood, and for others, it may take no time at all! The increased blood flow to the genital area during pregnancy can make it extra sensitive, so take the time to explore your body at your own pace. Work with what feels right for your body during pregnancy.

4. Explore different positions

Your body has changed a lot and you now have a big belly that can make regular masturbation difficult. You may have to do a lot of trial and error to find a comfortable position. Lying on your back is not ideal during pregnancy; try lying on your side, getting on all fours, or even leaning over the bed.

5. Clitoral stimulation for people in pelvic rest

If your doctor has prescribed pelvic rest for any reason, it probably means that you are no longer having sex. However, you can still masturbate by stimulating your clitoris and reach orgasm! However, confirm the feasibility of this practice with your doctor beforehand.