Most of us would probably say that period sex is not the ideal, sought-after, or ultimate experience. Still others find the idea downright disgusting. For me, it’s just sad and limiting.
Given that organized religion (among other forces at work in the world) often aims to control women’s sexuality in one way or another, it’s not surprising that some people (of all genders) object to menstrual sex… generations of misogynistic ideas have a hold on the collective mind of society. I would like to know where the book is that talks about Men’s Fluids being spread all over and inside women are blasphemous or against the natural order of the universe. Not to mention that for those who enjoy anal sex, the grossness factor during menstruation should be relatively low, and this is coming from a true fan of both.
While I don’t seek out period sex, I have had some incredible sex while on my period, and I think we all need to let go of our prudishness about it. I have had sex for the first time with people on a number of occasions, and usually against my “better” judgment: I usually really want to have sex, but I try to warn the man or even stop him because I don’t think he’ll be comfortable with my period. I have usually been wrong, and even downright surprised: I’ve had more than one lover not blink an eye, opting instead to perform oral sex on me. Other times, of course, I’ve seen men act strangely or even refuse sex with even the slightest bit of menstrual blood present, even in long-term relationships. That’s about 25% of the time sex is off limits, for some people. Whether you or your partner are turned off by the idea, just know that when you give up trying to keep things tidy (aside from a strategically placed towel or two), all sorts of amazing sexy sensations can await you.
Here are 5 things you need to know about period sex.
1. It’s good for PMS and your period
If you’re prone to PMS cramps, there’s an orgasm for that. When you orgasm, your body releases oxytocin and dopamine, along with other endorphins that can really ease any period-related pain. And the natural hormone surges are far more powerful than any painkiller. A 2013 study concluded that sexual activity can also reduce migraines and cluster headaches. And, if you’re looking to resume non-period sex sooner, the contraction of your uterus during orgasm sometimes speeds up the shedding of your uterine lining, meaning a 7-day period can end up being two or three days shorter. Orgasms.
2. It can bring you closer together
This isn’t an infallible statement, but sometimes we’re more likely to have period sex with someone we’re close to or want to get closer to. But regardless of how you and your sexual partner would describe your intimate spirit animal, opening yourself up to period sex can mean making yourself a little more vulnerable, and at best, vulnerability breeds vulnerability. If your partner isn’t interested in period sex, you obviously can’t force them to do anything, but personally, I’m biased and I think anyone making a fuss about it needs to calm down and get over their fear of women’s bodies. I’m biased, I told you.
3. Having your period can make you horny
Just because Aunt Flo is home doesn’t mean you have to put your sex life on hold until she catches the next flight. Many women find that they are more sexually aroused during their periods due to fluctuations in progesterone levels. According to a study by the Association of Reproductive Health Professionals, 62% of women reported increased sexual desire before or during their period. If that’s you, why let a little blood get in the way?
4. Menstrual blood is the natural lubricant
“Menstrual blood is actually a great lubricant and can improve sexual satisfaction for some couples,” says Kellie Flood-Shaffer, associate professor and chair of the division of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of Cincinnati School of Medicine. Women lose about four to 12 teaspoons of fluid each cycle, and not every drop is blood. Other fluids that leak during menstruation can also be a great sexual lubricant for intercourse and a welcome relief for anyone who tends to be short on fluids. lubricant department.
5. Menstrual blood does not cancel out sperm
Now you are convinced about having sex during your period, but remember that contrary to popular belief, sperm can live in the uterus for up to 5 days. So, depending on the nuances of your cycle, even if you have sex during your period, there is a chance that sperm will still be present at the time of ovulation. Pregnancy has occurred and can happen this way. Having sex at the beginning of your period may be less risky, but it is absolutely not a guarantee, girl, so be careful.
Tip Bonus
If you use a Diva Cup during your period and you like anal sexI would highly recommend engaging in anal play/sex with this Diva Cup in place. Something about the cup placement and the simultaneous anal penetration… it’s like a gentle yet exciting version of your deepest DP fantasy. Just saying. Plus, your partner can still freely stimulate your clit with their hands or tongue. And it’s not messy if you care about that sort of thing.
If, at the end of the day, period sex isn’t for you, or isn’t for you 75% of the time, that’s okay. The beauty of it all is having a choice, darlings. That’s what’s sexy about it. So if embarrassment is the only thing holding you back, take that as a license to be physically violent, even on your period. You’ll probably enjoy it more than you think.