Pegging 101: A Beginner’s Guide to Pegging | Aldult Toys Blog

Pegging is all the rage right now. I know, it doesn’t really sound like a real phrase, but it’s true. Pegging, which is basically short for making love to your boyfriend with a strap-on, has definitely gotten more press and exposure in recent years. Whether you saw it on that episode of Broad City or you’ve always wanted to fuck your man in the ass with a strap-on, pegging is everywhere right now — so there’s no better time to embrace it.

That said, there’s no guarantee that every guy will be up for it, so don’t force them to do something they’re not comfortable with. And if they want to do it but you don’t like the idea, that’s okay too. However, if your man enjoys anal sex with you but refuses to try pegging, it might be time to have a conversation about double standards and equality in your relationship. Just saying.

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But if you’ve never tried pegging, or anal in general, it can seem like a totally intimidating prospect. Luckily, as with any new sexual experience, it’s all about being informed, communicating, and taking it slow. Here’s what you need to know, because there’s no limit to the amount of lube you can use.

1. Communication is key

First of all, even if you both agree to pegging (which you should before you try anything), you need to keep the lines of communication open. As you experiment and move through the different stages, stay in constant communication. Make sure your partner feels comfortable and safe, every step of the way. This means talking about it during sex and before and/or after, to make sure you’re on the same page. Just treat him or her the way you would like to be treated during your first anal experience.

2. Don’t rush

Yes, pegging traditionally involves fucking your boyfriend with a strap-on or dildo, but that doesn’t mean you have to jump right into using that strap-on or dildo. You may want to practice anal fingering or inserting small toys first. Once you think you’re ready for dildos, start small with those too. The anus is a very sensitive area that can tear easily, so it’s better to be safe than sorry.

3. All the lubricant. All

How much lubricant do you think you will need? You need more than that. Really, a lot more. Whether you’re just getting into fingering or are really ready for pegging, there’s no such thing as too much lube – you can always wipe it off. But putting some not only on the dildo but also around the anal area can make the whole process go a lot smoother. Literally.

4. Take sex toy purchasing seriously

Whether you’re starting with a dildo or want to go full-on harness, you’ll want to find a toy that fits you and feels right. Visiting a sex toy store or reading reviews online can give you expert advice to help you along the way. But always, always, always choose something with a wider base when you’re dealing with anal. Things can get lost up there. That’s a fact.

5. Play with the prostate

One of the reasons anal play feels so good for a man is the prostate, a fun little pleasure center that feels really good. So when you’re using your fingers, go for a prostate massage. And when you’re choosing a toy, make sure to find one that stimulates the P-spot. There are plenty of toys designed specifically for this purpose.

6. Choose your position wisely

There are many different positions that are great for pegging, but the easiest to start with is probably doggy style or with your partner lying on their back and lifting their legs up – basically a variation of missionary. The beauty of this position is not only that you have great access, but also that you can see each other and make eye contact, so you can be sure that they are comfortable throughout the process. Just start slowly and see how they feel – ultimately, you should choose the position that they feel most comfortable in.

7. Have fun

Finally, pegging is a kinky act, a power play, and unusual, so have fun with it. Anything that disrupts traditional gender norms or allows you to do something taboo should have a playful twist. So while you can take it very seriously, make sure you have fun with it too.

Conclusion

Pegging can be a fun and sexy addition to your bedroom fun, but it can also be intimidating if you’ve never done it before. So take it slow. Start by gradually building up her tolerance, and then you can move on to the main event. Don’t be afraid to communicate and seek expert advice if you need it. But most importantly, don’t forget the lube, sweetie.