Chances are you’ve heard of Tantric sexIt’s about exploring sexual pleasure without rushing to orgasm or completion. It’s about experiencing an expansive awareness of yourself and your partner. At its core, Tantra is a set of ancient spiritual practices rooted in Hinduism, Buddhism, and Jain traditions dating back thousands of years. In the Western world, however, it’s most often used to describe a sacred, mindful approach to sexual pleasure.
Whether or not you adhere to a sacred sexual mentality, and whether you are a couple or singleThe fact is this: Mindfulness can transform Your relationship with masturbation too. You heard it here first.
What is conscious masturbation?
Conscious masturbation It is the practice of being fully present and focused while pleasuring yourself, thus opening yourself to a meaningful connection with your body and the pleasure it offers.
This may involve using mindfulness techniques like deep breathing, staying present in the moment, and not judging your deepest thoughts, feelings, and desires. Think of it as a way to cultivate a deeper sense of self-awareness and self-acceptance, as well as reduce anxiety And improve mental health generally.
Tips for Mindful Masturbation
While sexuality is very individual and you have no obligation to heed anyone else’s advice to consciously stoke your inner fire, consider the following tips if and when you need a little extra inspiration:
Set the mood. As is often the case with partnered sex, a little ambiance never hurts. Whether it’s nice, relaxing lighting, a candle or two, a bit of incense, or music that’s particularly conducive to being in your body, do what works for you. And since, as with any meditation practice, the goal of mindful masturbation is to stay present, consider going screen-free (i.e., removing any screens you typically use during masturbation).
Breathe. When practicing mindful masturbation, paying attention to your breathing can help you stay present and focused on your sensations. Slow, deep breaths can help you relax and stay focused on/in your body. Try inhaling through your nose and exhaling through your mouth, slowly. If you are using rhythmic movement or stimulation, try to match your breathing to that rhythm. If you notice your thoughts wandering elsewhere, simply bring your attention back to your breathing.
Do not rush. The goal of mindful masturbation is to feel pleasure, not to reach orgasm as quickly as possible (or at all). Take your time exploring sensitive areas of your body other than your sweet pussy. Use your hands to explore erogenous zones like your legs, belly, neck, and nipples. If you feel a sense of urgency taking over but you’re not ready to go yet, come back to your breathing.
Be here now. Focus on the pleasant sensations you feel throughout your body as you explore, noting what feels particularly amazing. If your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to the physical feeling to touch yourself. Remember: fully inhabiting your body and being present in the moment are one and the same thing. Once you begin to internalize this truth, conscious self-pleasure will come more naturally to you.
Try something new. If you are used to sex toys, exploring your own body with your hands may be the way to go. If you are used to using only your hands, introduce a sex toy maybe this is exactly what the good goddess ordered. Try masturbating in new placesin front of a mirror, in new positionsor with your non-dominant hand. Experiment In this way I can awaken you to the aliveness inherent in bodily sensation and teach you things about yourself that you didn’t know you needed to know.
The Benefits of Mindful Masturbation
The practice of mindful masturbation can have many invaluable benefits for your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. These include:
A deeper understanding of your pleasure and desire. Sculpt the It’s time to try new masturbation techniques to learn what pleases you the most and what turns you on. Taking the time to get to know the different areas of your gorgeous body allows you to explore deeper and longer-lasting sensations of pleasure than you might experience with your usual type of masturbation, with the more intense pleasure being its own reward!
Better sexual experiences. Exploring your desires and preferences in a mindful, non-judgmental way can help you have more satisfying sexual experiences with a partner. Knowing your personal preferences helps you communicate your desires to a sexual partner, boosting your sexual confidence as well as your capacity for pleasure.
Improved personal care. Prioritizing your pleasure means taking time for yourself. Practice regularly Masturbation is an act of self-careimproving your mental health and sense of self-love, something we could all benefit from a little (or a lot) more of. Revising your masturbation practice from quick relief to slow lovemaking (at least some of the time), can help a lot.
More robust physical health. From pain reliefhas strengthening immunityTHE regulation of your menstrual cycle, increased fertility, more restful sleepjust exercising, increased brain functionhas longer overall lifespanThe potential bodily benefits of sexual pleasure are numerous and impressive, to say the least. And when we indulge in this pleasure in a conscious and loving way, these benefits are only enhanced.
Stress reduction. Masturbation releases happy hormones and neurotransmitters which help reduce stress and blood pressure while promote relaxationand improves your overall mood. Whether or not you have an orgasm, indulging in pleasure relieves mental tension and reduces your stress levels so you can hear your body speak.
Bottom line: If you’re interested in mindful masturbation, approach the experience with curiosity and openness, and be gentle and kind to yourself. Intentionally practicing mindful masturbation on a regular basis can and will expand your pleasure wisdom. Chew on it, honey. Over time, you’ll see more and more of the benefits, making the act of staying present while you caress your area much easier and more infused with compassionate, burning self-love.