“Mankeeping” is destroying dates for tired women

It turns out that the real reason she didn’t text was probably because you treated her the same way you did her.

A recent Stanford University study formally named emotional labor, thus absorbing the lives of straight men and women: “Mankeeping” – it is driving them straight out of the date pool.

The word refers to managing a man’s emotions, stress and exhaustion in social life, pay-free performances while trying to keep himself mentally healthy.

From decoding a partner’s emotional constipation to playing middleman with his partner, women are played as live therapists, social secretary and emotional scaffolding.

They are over.

“In the United States, about one in five people claim they don’t have close friends,” Angelica Puzio Ferrara, a postdoctoral fellow and developmental psychologist at Stanford University, said in a speech by a faculty and staff researcher at the Clayman College.

“Men social networks in the United States and the United Kingdom tend to be thinner, have less frequent emotional disclosures and rarely rely on support compared to women’s social networks.”

Basically, he has no one else to talk to – so he traumatized you.

Ferrara believes that this popularity of male loneliness is not only a “him” problem – it’s a she burden. This is prompting women to suspend relationships altogether.

According to a Pew study, only 38% of single women are actively seeking love, while 61% of men are.

Mathematics adds up to one thing: women are choosing “therapists with benefits.”

“It’s the loss caused by women in male social networks and reduces the burden on the family, heterosexual bonds themselves and men,” Ferrara explained.

“The obstacles men face in relationships have the potential to represent men expanding women’s labor.”

In other words, it is not only a boyfriend in need, but also a system.

Ferrara compares this exhausted “mankeeping” with “relatives”, an unquestionable job of maintaining family bonds, which mysteriously ends up in the circle of women.

The root of all this? Female friendship and toxic masculinity are maldeveloped.

Ferrara said naming this invisible labor is the first step towards equity.

She stressed that recognizing and naming this form of gendered labour might be important in making women’s emotional work more visible and hope for more equality.

Until then? More and more women are waving in the mastery.

Another possible solution? Men may call partners more often.

As the post previously reported, some say it’s just a wholesome fashion – others call it a remedy for male loneliness.

In a surprisingly sweet new trend, brothers (mainly Gen Z), but not the only ones – the guy who picks up the phone and calls them just says, “Good night.”

And the hydraulic workers are flowing.

A viral tiktok, with over 3 million views, shows a user filming a husband and a friend.

He said, “Hi-What’s wrong?

A collective shock was prompted.

His friend caught him off guard.

After the man said sweetly that he loved him, the surprised friend replied: “God deserves to die, I love you too.” […] I don’t know what to say; you caught me off guard. ”

The audience is in progress.

One person commented: “Seriously, this is how you fight with men’s loneliness and being friends with each other.”