Health of Rehabilitated Drug Addicts: Part 2,

Scott Brassart

In my previous post on this site, we discussed what restorative, porn and sex addicts need to do before they are ready to move forward with healthy sexual behavior. In this article, we discuss how healthy sexual behaviors become (slowly) an integral part of restoring the life of an addict.

In most cases, health is built around intimacy rather than intensity. This may confuse some sexual drug users because they have long equated “intimacy” with sexual intensity. In fact, intimacy and sexual intensity are very different. Intimacy is about Emotional connection A link with another person – possibly involving sexual behavior. Sexual intensity, especially for sex addicts, is completely opposite, focusing on emotional escape and emotional disconnection rather than connection. Healthy sexual behavior involves emotional intimacy. Have healthy sexual behaviors and use sex. Addictive sexual behavior involves avoiding emotional intimacy. Sexual behaviors that are sexually lustful, sexuality is used to numb and escape.

The question for resuming gender, porn, and material/sex addicts is how they transition from incredibly intense, emotional escapist sex to an intimate sexual connection with a romantic partner, but ultimately makes more sense. As discussed in my previous post, this is not easy, as recovery sex addicts tend to miss addictive dopamine/adrenaline shocks. Sometimes, they even have to spend some time grieving this loss, knowing that the emotional intimacy they hope now will never match that intensity.

Happily, emotionally intimate sexual behavior offers other neurochemical rewards – most notably the blows of serotonin and oxytocin brought with it with intimate connections. These rewards not only compensate for the loss of strength. In fact, many recovered sex addicts say they find that “sobering gender” makes more sense emotionally and physically than the best version of “addiction”.

The best way to restore sexual, porn and material/sex addicts to achieve this new form of sexual satisfaction and reward is to explore seven dimensions of healthy sex with willing, emotionally connected partners. These seven dimensions include:

• Self-vein: The process of taking care of yourself and feeling better.
• Sensibility: Develop the consciousness and learning of the body to stimulate all senses.
• Intimate relationship (general): Enjoy the company of others without sex.
• Partner intimacy: Enjoy your important company of others without having sex.
• Non-growth physical touch: No genital contact, giving and receiving physical pleasure.
• Genitality: Enhance, maintain and enrich genitality.
• Spiritual Intimacy: Add meaning and turn sex into an expression of feelings, values ​​and connections.

Healthy (unreliant) people are born to know that sex is more than just sex. They know that gender may be as much or more as pure physical pleasure and intensity. However, sex addicts have abused sexual fantasies and behavior for so long (as self-soothing rather than as a means of connection) that they can hardly understand other aspects of sexual behavior. Therefore, it is wise to restore sexual addicts to explore seven dimensions of healthy sexual behavior.

This exploration should take place over time. It can be said that restoring sex addicts are not in a hurry to resume the game. But if you are a recovering sex addict and you feel you are ready to develop healthy sexual behaviors, I’m all for it. As long as your therapist, 12-step sponsor and partner (if you have) reach an agreement. To do this, I suggest you ask yourself the following questions, each of which is related to one of the seven dimensions of health:

• Self-vein: What activities, environments and experiences can enhance and nurture you?
• Sensibility: What activities, behaviors, or environments increase your body consciousness and stimulate your senses?
• Intimate relationship (general): How do you stay with others without having sex?
• Partner intimacy: How do you stay with your partner without having sex?
• Non-growth physical touch: How do you please each other without genital contact?
• Genitality: How to enhance, sustain and enrich genital expression?
• Spiritual Intimacy: How to make all these dimensions more meaningful?

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If you or someone you care about is struggling with sexual, pornography, or material/sex addiction, please help. Seeking integrity to provide hospitalization for sexual, pornographic and material/sex drug users as well as low-cost online task force. Meanwhile, sexAndRelationshiphealing.com offers a variety of free webinars and visit discussion groups, podcasts, and more.