Giving a Woman Blowjob for the First Time: What to Expect |

Sometimes you just have to go for it. For many women (and some men) who are looking to have sex with a woman for the first time, the idea of ​​cunnilingus can be quite intimidating. Maybe as a woman, you’ve experienced a botched blowjob yourself and realized that there’s almost nothing more boring or unsexy than a limp tongue dangling around in there. Maybe it’s never been done to you.. Or maybe you don’t know where to start. I was also really nervous about giving a woman oral sex for the first time, and after a few drunk attempts, I was even more nervous about doing it for the first time sober. But it turns out it’s just like riding a bike.

Okay, so it’s not at all like riding a bike, but it’s a lot more natural than you might expect, once you get the hang of it.

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Here’s what you need to know about giving a woman oral sex for the first time, because it’s incredibly more than that — but things can get a little cramped.

Home advantage is REAL

You might be totally intimidated by the idea of ​​giving a woman a blowjob for the first time, but if you have a vagina, you already have a head start. The home advantage is no joke: even a woman who isn’t good at giving a blowjob is better than a lot of guys who have no idea what they’re doing. So when you’re getting started, think about what you like and how your anatomy works. No two women are exactly alike, but being able to pinpoint the clitoris, G-spot, and other sensitive areas already gives you a head start.

There is less space than expected

Unless the woman you’re sleeping with is a Cirque du Soleil extra, chances are things are pretty tight down there. Your head is between her thighs, you need somewhere to place your hands, and there’s a good chance she’ll move around a bit. In fact, there have been more than a few times when I thought I was going to suffocate from a thigh and head grip mid-cunnilingus. You may have to try a few times to get the angle right, but that’s completely normal.

Incorporate your hands

Some women go completely crazy with just your tongue, but others need a little more friction and stimulation. Don’t be afraid to add your hands to the mix. You can use them for clitoral play or penetration, or both, but involving your hands can make the experience even more intense. Using your tongue on the clit and your fingers inside is a classic combination, but you can also reverse that.

Cramps are a real possibility

Your tongue isn’t made for everything. If you stick it in there for too long, chances are you’ll start to feel like your tongue is cramping, or even like you’re getting close to some sort of jaw lock. That’s okay. Just take a step back and vary your technique for a moment, then let your jaw settle back into place. You can always use a toy to give your body a break, too.

There is a smell and a taste — and it is excellent.

Fun fact — vaginas smell and taste like vaginas. Not some summer rain or rose bush, just a regular vagina. The good news? Regular vagina smells and tastes amazing. Every woman has a slightly different brand, some stronger than others, but it’s awesome. I’ve discovered that it’s a total myth that men don’t want to make love to women – every man I’ve slept with has loved it down there. And the reason they love it is simple: it tastes delicious. So don’t worry about it being unpleasant – in fact, many people actually find it more pleasurable.

Pay attention to how she reacts

The most important thing to remember, as with any sexual relationship, is to pay attention to how your partner responds. Some women really like their clitoris, others want a slower build-up around the labia. Some are sensitive, others need a lot of sensation. So try to listen to your partner, rather than worrying about whether you’re doing it right or not. Their response should help guide you in the right direction.

There’s nothing wrong with asking questions

Finally, you’re not alone in this journey. If you’re nervous about your first time, that’s okay: remember that sex is a team sport. It’s totally okay to ask someone if they like what you’re doing, what they’d like to do, or what you could do more of. Don’t feel alone: ​​It’s also your partner’s job to help you feel comfortable.

Giving a woman a blowjob can be intimidating because we have this idea that the vagina is complicated and that the female orgasm is elusive. But that’s completely wrong. I can cum in no time, as can many women I know. Some women take a little longer, but some men do too. So relax. There’s no reason why giving a woman a blowjob should be any more complicated or tricky than giving a man a blowjob. Mix it up, pay attention to your partner, and have fun. It’s really not that complicated.