FF: The temperature that maintains a healthy marriage

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Autumn has arrived in our little corner of the world. We’ve had two frosts (I’m tired of covering and uncovering things in the garden) and we no longer leave the windows open all night.

Today on Facebook I saw some local friends discussing the need to warm up for the first time this morning. However, here at the Byerley household we are still weeks away from having a bit of heat in the bedroom for the night, and maybe a month before we can fire up the wood stove. It’s not because we can withstand the cold any better than others (I’m from Texas, they were born here!), but because our houses are well insulated. In addition to the basement being almost entirely underground, the windows are double-glazed and there is plenty of insulation in the attic. Because of this, the house is well insulated. We don’t need to add heat that early, and when we do need heat, we don’t need to add as much.

This got me thinking about marriage. For a marriage to be healthy, it needs to maintain a good temperature; if it’s too cold, that’s trouble. Two ways to keep your marriage hot are to generate heat and to maintain heat. I think we need both; we can’t generate enough heat to keep an uninsulated marriage warm, and if you don’t generate any heat, no amount of insulation will keep your marriage warm. Without enough isolation, you have to work very hard to keep your marriage at the temperature it needs to be, and sooner or later you’ll be trying too hard to keep it there. Without good insulation, even a short period of time without heat can lead to a cold marriage. With better insulation, the little problems in life that interfere with heating are no longer a problem.

How do you quarantine your marriage? What can you do to isolate it better?

[This post first appeared Sept 12, 2012.]

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