FF: Her take on Christmas underwear

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We did a little poll on Facebook asking wives if they wanted lingerie for Christmas.

Less than half said yes, some is good, while only 8% said more is better. A quarter said it was okay, but they thought it was a gift to him, not to them. 17% would rather have gift certificates so they can pick out what they want. About 10 percent said the item he bought was uncomfortable, didn’t fit well, or made it feel like an object rather than a person.

Before you decide that this poll shows that most wives would settle for some Christmas lingerie, realize that the poll was directed at an explicitly supportive group of Christian women. In a group more representative of women as a whole, I’d expect to see more negative answers.

Part of the problem is that women as a whole are often more defined by their clothes than men. What she chooses to wear expresses how she sees herself, so what you buy her expresses how you see her. You buy her something because you think she’s sexy, but that might send her a different, negative message.

So be careful here. If in doubt, don’t buy underwear. If you’re okay with it, err on the side of wearing too little rather than being as sexy as you think you are. If you want to buy something but don’t know how, check out my Buying Underwear Without Dying of Embarrassment article.

[This post first appeared Dec 8, 2012.]

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