Feed the Right Wolf – Sexual and Relationship Rehabilitation

Scott Brassart

There is an old proverb (thanks to many different sources) about a man who lives with two wolfs. A wolf is filled with shame, anger, fear, greed, resentment, false pride, self-pity, anxiety, depression and despair. Another wolf is filled with joy, tranquility, acceptance, trust, peace, empathy, creativity, kindness, hope and love. A wolf is a wolf, fighting for the control of the soul that controls a person, and he wants to know that he will win.

Finally, after careful consideration, he realized that the winning wolf would be the one he chose to feed. Therefore, his future is no longer left to the wolf.

This proverb has never been more useful than talking to recovery addicts, especially those who restore sexual, porn and drug/sex addicts. When we enter recovery, we have the option. We can feed addict wolf through ongoing sexual fantasies and addictive sexual behaviors. Alternatively, we can feed the recovery wolf with thoughts and behaviors designed to be awake and heal.

Scott Brassart is the author of books such as “Rehabilitation and Rehabilitation of Sex and Porn Addiction”.

The simple fact is that we become what we are surrounded by. If we are addicted to sexual, porn, or paired material/sexual behaviors and we will continue to surround ourselves with sexual inputs (including sexual fantasies and euphoric recalls of past sexual experiences), we will feed addicts’ wolf. But if we choose to surround ourselves around helping professionals and other actively recovering addicts, we feed the recovery wolf.

If we want to recover from addiction and become our best selves, we must live in an environment that supports these purposes. For example, consider patients with diabetes. Most people with diabetes are diagnosed and will indicate a better diet and regular exercise. Many people are able to do this without much struggle, but despite their best intentions, it seems to be in the past few weeks but it doesn’t seem to be managed. Usually, the difference is not individual. This is a support network around individuals. If the whole family eats healthier and walks every day, lasting changes are easy for people with diabetes. But if others in the family continue to eat poorly and escape exercise, so can diabetes.

The same is true for addiction. If we want to recover, we have to be with the people who are recovering. We need their support (they need our support). We didn’t do well by ourselves. In short, our chances of success have increased exponentially. This is one of the reasons for the 12-step program, residential rehabilitation and low-cost online working groups (such as our Sex Addiction 101 and Porn Addiction 101 Group). They bring us together in a restored atmosphere. They feed the recovery wolf.

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If you or a loved one is struggling with sexual, pornography, or material/sex addiction, seeking integrity can help. In addition to residential rehabilitation, we offer low-cost online workgroups for both male addicts and male porn addicts, which is a new rehabilitation. Click here for information about our Sex Addiction Working Group. Click here for information about our Porn Addiction Working Group.