Fair game or cheating? The borders of these bedrooms have been activated

According to new research, “harmless flirting” (51%), chatting with ex (60%), watching porn (23%) can create or break a relationship.

A survey of 2,000 sexually active adults explored the different “bedroom boundaries” they had, and found that many people believed that these boundaries were “cheating” in a romantic relationship.

Those who put porn on the list of double behaviors have a strong feeling: 54% of these respondents believe that when a relationship becomes serious, it should be “banned”.

What can be accepted? A survey conducted by Talker Research in collaboration with Lelo found that most people agreed to read eroticism (79%), masturbate or use sex toys (76%), and dance with others (66%).

When the potential of dishonestness raises their heads, they become confrontational: If they hide their phone passwords or flirt with someone casually (41%), 37% will call up a partner.

Respondents are also sensitive when it comes to the past, half said they would face their partner because they took photos with their ex on their phone or social media (49%), or even more if the text involved is involved , they will do this (62%).

However, one-third of the people who are still able to be surveyed with friends from EX, with 30% saying they will pay close attention to the situation and only get involved if something is suspicious.

36% will also pay attention to the close relationship between their partners and colleagues without facing them.

On the other hand, if their partner dances with someone else (32%), asks someone to give them a drink (31%), or reads erotic (47%), then Americans don’t feel jealous.

“Intimacy is a personal journey, and everyone has their own boundaries,” said Luka Matutinovic, chief marketing officer at Lelo. “Whether it is single, in a relationship or in between, there is a need for openness and mutual respect. About desire and The limited honest conversation unleashes new experiences, helping partners build deeper trust and connections. When judgments are canceled, both partners feel capable of exploring and discovering new pleasures to create true intimacy and common growth Space.”

While most people in a relationship believe their partner knows their romantic or sexual boundaries (89%), one in seven will not hesitate to be honest with them if they do something that bothers them.

Although three-quarters of all Americans claim to be satisfied with their sex life (77%), in close relationships, only 30% are “always” satisfied.

More than half of the respondents admitted that they were dishonest or did not talk about things that secretly disturbed them with their partners (53%) because they did not want to upset them (39%) or fear their reactions (33%).

A conversation about what they like in bed is never an easy task, but one in six desires to talk about it immediately, while the average person thinks that the conversation should be done after four rounds of intimacy.

Some of the “controversial” behaviors they might leak in pillow conversations are that they want to masturbate or use sex toys (38%), explore new tangles (25%), or engage in close relationships with multiple partners (11%).

But one in six people who are interested in something considered “controversial” admit that their partner is not aware that they are interested in the activity.

“Honestness is the foundation of a true intimacy and the key to building a deeper connection,” Matutinovic said. “Everyone’s boundaries and desires are unique, and real realization comes from open conversations about needs and limitations. Avoiding these discussions can create Distance, but embracing honest and open minds can enhance trust, promote understanding and deepen bonds that enable both partners to truly see and hear.”

Investigation method:

The Speaker Study surveyed 2,000 sexually active Americans. The survey was commissioned by Lelo and was managed and conducted online at Talker Research from February 5 to February 11, 2025.