Fair Fight: Arguing Without Damaging Your Marriage

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One of my post tags is “Fight Well”. Maybe it would be better to “have a good argument,” but let’s be honest, most of us have an occasional argument.

Fighting is not a problem. Some couples with strong, healthy marriages often do this. What matters is how you fight because that determines how you feel afterwards. If you’re frustrated because of the horrible things your wife said to you or about you, it doesn’t matter whether you think you won or lost. The same goes for your wife.

Have you ever tried to take back something nasty: “I acted in the heat of the moment and I didn’t mean to.” Would you feel better if your wife said some of the nasty things she said to you? Don’t you doubt that she meant what she said? Is that at least a little bit like that?

Then there was the yelling. Some couples scream loudly at each other and walk away feeling good. But some people, especially women more than men, feel violated when they are yelled at. Unless you’re 100 percent sure that yelling won’t hurt your wife, you need to avoid doing it.

More to come on Thursday.

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