Can I sit on your face? Facesitting 101

2024-08-07
Posted by PSEDEN

Facesitting is like “face sitting,” but without the neck pain. The practice is said to date back to ancient Egypt, and now it’s coming to your bedroom.

As the name suggests, facesitting is the act of sitting on someone’s face. Not for the purpose of smothering them (unless that’s your thing), but for the purpose of receiving oral sex. Traditionally, this is considered a “woman on top” position, but facesitting can be enjoyed by people of any gender.

What’s the difference between facesitting and cunnilingus?

Facesitting requires the receiver to sit astride or squat on their partner’s face. It is truly a “full body” experience. For the giver, not only do they get to use their mouth, but they also get to breathe, smell, and taste their partner. Their entire field of vision will also be taken up by their partner. Additionally, gravity and the weight of their partner will add to this overwhelming sexual experience.

Meanwhile, for the receiver, it’s all about focusing on their own pleasure. Face-to-face or “queen-sitting” positions let them set the pace, and some women find it easier to orgasm on top. 90.9% of women enjoy receiving oral sex, and 24% claim the main reason they enjoy it is because of what their partner makes them feel emotionally. One woman described it as one of the best orgasms she’s ever had! In this case, confidence is king… or queen.

Queen? Really?

Yes! Anyone can facesit, but a queen sits on it and it enters the realm of perverted. Even without tying them to a bed, the authority of a dominant woman knows exactly what she wants and nothing matters except her pleasure…and that’s sexy. Some men find it very attractive to be “used” in facesitting.

Therefore, facesitting is popular among dominatrixes because they are able to combine control with humiliation and denial. For example, in male slave and female dominatrix scenes, facesitting prevents the penis from receiving any stimulation unless the dominatrix choose Use hand movements to please their slave. Or, if he doesn’t please her, she can slap his penis or pinch his nipples.

Sitting face to face will not have There’s a bit of a power play involved, but the option is there if you’re interested.

OK, you’ve piqued my interest. What should I do?

Before you begin, you should discuss two things: first, which direction the giver feels comfortable sitting with their upper body—not everyone can take eye contact, and second, how to signal if they need a break. This is crucial if their partner is overly enthusiastic and the giver is overwhelmed.

Now, devotees, it’s time to lie down. You may want to put a pillow or two under your head for extra support, or you may prefer to lie flat on your mattress. Experiment and find what works best for you!

The receiver then straddles their partner’s head, which may feel awkward at first, but don’t worry. Use the headboard, wall, or bed for support as needed and lower your vulva or anus toward their face. The best tip for girls is to line things up so your clit rubs against your partner’s nose as you grind.

It’s then up to the giver to perform rimjob or oral sex on their partner. It’s possible to give someone oral sex in this position, but it’s a little tricky. Remember, you may be performing oral sex on your partner’s body from an inverted position, and you’ll have to adjust your technique.

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Get your partner involved with your hands. Not only stimulate your partner’s genitals, but also grab your partner’s thighs and pull them deeper to give him or her more. If your partner is focused on your vulva or butt, bring in a bullet vibrator or suction cup toy, or if you have a penis, bring in a masturbator.

Also, make sure the beard or short mustache is clean to prevent beard burn—no one wants a rash on their thighs!—and consider conditioning your beard to keep it softer. Speaking of hygiene, the recipient may be self-conscious about how they smell. Some givers like it “musky,” so it’s worth asking, but if you want to shower and/or shave beforehand, go for it. I would say that you should make sure your anus is clean because of the friction.

Won’t they suffocate?

As with any sexual activity, consent and clear communication are key. No matter your size, as long as you communicate it’s fine. When someone needs a breather, tap/dab and you’ll let them eat your…well, not your hand anyway.

If you’re still concerned, you can try starting with different positions and then gradually transitioning to full face sitting. Of course, if you have a breath control or suffocation quirk, it’s called a choking fetish.

Now that you know all about facesitting, will you encourage your queen to sit? Or will you ascend to your own throne? Let us know if you found our advice helpful, or share your own secrets to the perfect facesitting.

I had this in my head while writing this, and now it can be in yours too