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Have you heard of extreme edging? If you’re into BDSM or want to spice up your sex life, you might want to learn about this tantalizing sexual practice. Extreme edging involves bringing yourself or your partner to the brink of orgasm and then stopping, over and over again, for hours on end.
And, as long as the right safety measures are taken, the practice can be incredibly satisfying and thrilling. But it is very important to be aware of the risks and precautions that are essential to indulging in this form of gaming.
In this article, We’ll look at the benefits and risks as well as some safety measures to ensure the best (and very excruciating) experience, plus other helpful information. Are you ready to enter the world of extreme edge? Let’s go!
Edge and extreme edge
Let’s start with the regular edges. This is also known as orgasm or surfing and is a sexual technique for controlling someone’s orgasm. You can do it with a partner or on your own. It may sound easy, but maintaining high levels of sexual arousal for long periods of time can be tricky for some people.
Yes, It belongs to the category of BDSMBut like all kinks, it can be practiced to any extreme. So if your partner is about to orgasm and you jokingly prevent it, you are engaging in edging behavior.
With regular edging practice, this game might last only a few minutes to a few hours – depending on the individual.
However, Extreme edging sports use this practice to maximize not only time, but also thrills. A simple example would be to have your partner control you so that you don’t orgasm for a whole day, but still stay aroused. Keep in mind that this is just a simple idea at the extreme edge. Some couples, Dom/mes, and cam models have entire games based around this idea.
Extreme edge advantage
Denying orgasm may not sound like a fun thing to do, but it’s actually pretty awesome, even if you’re a beginner. One reason to practice edging (whether extreme or not) is because it can…
Helps with self-awarenesss – To do any kind of vaginal sex, you have to be very aware of your body. This includes knowing what turns you on, what can make you orgasm quickly, and ways you can control yourself. Believe it or not, this is mindfulness.
2. It Can Enhance Sexual Stamina – We all know that it takes women longer to reach orgasm than men. Therefore, if a man can master extreme sex techniques, he can satisfy his partner for a longer period of time.
Better orgasms – This denial and anticipation will allow the practitioner to experience the most intense orgasm they have ever experienced in their life.
Did you know that you can develop a sense of anticipation even without actually being in a sexual situation?
You can start the excitement process ahead of time by sexting or sending each other erotic photos (If you have a partner, of course.) If you’re riding alone, or practicing alone, you can still have the same pre-race experience. You can listen to erotic audiobooks, or look at any sexy photos online that catch your eye.
I would also add that it can teach some people, the patients. Instant gratification isn’t always our best friend, and learning how to delay it can have some pretty awesome benefits.

First, the location. As we all know, the options are endless. Some delicious examples that are definitely worth trying include…
Chastity belt – These can help build up anticipation, as the rare ones will be excited for the time when they are unlocked and the fun begins. Plus, oh, even the act of putting it on can be exciting. You can also use something like a vibrator to aim at the outer part of the chastity cage to create residual vibrations to tease your partner.
Chicken cage – They are the male version of a chastity belt. It is a device that fits over the penis and prevents someone from having a full erection. Since the wearer cannot have a full erection, the product itself can be edging.
Vibrator – There are so many different types of vibrators on the market that it can be hard to choose. So I’m going to give you a crash course. Wands are for powerful vibrations. Bullet vibrators are for gentler but targeted vibrations. Rabbit vibrators are for internal vibrations (turned on but can be used externally) Rest vibrators are exactly what they sound like.
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Vibrating nipple clamps – Some people can actually orgasm through their nipples. Having a set of vibrating nipple clamps can be a really fun addition. It can be especially torturous if you use it with other sex toys.
Male masturbator – They can be smart toys like the Lovense Max 2 or simple sleeves like the Tenga Egg. It doesn’t matter. It’s all up to you and your edging preferences. When you decide to buy one, be sure to look at the sleeve texture, vibrations, heating options, depth of the toy, app control options, and any other goodies you think would be suitable for your extreme edging adventures.
Anal Toys – There are butt plugs and stuff like that, Prostate massageWeissOr an anal vibrator/dildo. But whatever you choose, always remember the golden rule of anal toys. They must have a flared base for safety! If they don’t, get one. Anal toys are great because you can pair them with other sex toys.

There is a website (Fap Roulette) contains some images like the one above, but with different rules. Each image uses a random number selector that corresponds to something in the list of rules for that page. This is a great way to gamify things.
The Edge: How to Prevent an Orgasm

If you’re having sex with a partner, the biggest tool you need is communication. Even the most experienced players who know each other well have to talk to each other. You need to tell each other how you’re feeling, what your body is doing, and whether you’re about to orgasm. This allows the other person to do what they need to do to stop the orgasm from coming. Here are some things you can try…
- Eliminate stimulation from the sex toys you’re using (this is especially useful for solo play)
- Some people use ice cubes for cold and shock
- For those who enjoy slapping, slapping is both a perverted behavior and a good way to prevent orgasm
- You can take the tantric path and practice through breathing
- There is a squeeze method where you apply pressure to the head of the penis for about 30 seconds. You do this to another person and have them show you what works best for them.
Extreme marginal risk

The first is the extreme marginal risk. Don’t believe it can cause erectile dysfunction.
However, there may be a “risk” (if you want to call it that) for epididymal hypertension (also known as blue balls). How to solve this problem is not difficult. Because remember, Edge doesn’t mean never letting you or your partner orgasm. This is to delay it.
However I hope you will take this next part seriously.
Some sexual behaviors (depending on the person) can bring on overwhelming emotional highs and lows. When you delve into someone’s fantasies, sexual depths, etc., you occasionally encounter unexpected emotions that you didn’t know existed. These emotions can be positive or negative.
This is why edging should be taken seriously and if you are going to use anything to stop them from talking then it should be with a safe word and/or a verbal safe word. If they use a safe word and need to orgasm you have to respect that.
and, You’ll want to discuss things after the meeting to make sure it went well or if there’s anything that needs improvement. If any problems arise, you will need to provide Excellent after-sales service. This may include checking on them the next day or a few days later.
Final Thoughts on The Edge of Extremity
This might sound a little scary – but don’t let that put you off! You don’t have to jump in the deep end right away. You can start with the regular edge and work your way up. Or, if you just prefer the shallow end of the Extreme Edge Pool, that’s totally fine!
Meaning, if a thousand strokes are ideal for you, then don’t judge those who find happiness in a hundred.
Finally, I want to say again that because this is BDSM play, you need to provide aftercare, period. A lot of this is up to you and your partner, but if you communicate well, prepare a plan of action ahead of time, know your limits, prepare some fun stuff, and come into play with an open and excited mind, you will have the time of your life.
Got any other tips or thoughts about Extreme Edge? Please share them in the comments!