Magazines and the Internet are filled with examples of bad oral sex techniques.

Not just bad, but subpar…

I mean bad ones, like “if you do these things you could cause permanent psychological damage to him” (especially suggestion #4).

But how do we know which advice is valuable and which is useless?

You can conduct your own scientific research by testing various theories on dozens of partners.

But why would you do that when you can hear the answers directly from someone who has worked with thousands of men from all over the world? (Hi, that’s me!)

Today, I’m going to dive into the nine most common bad oral sex techniques I see in magazines and on the internet.

If you stay clear of these nine specific techniques, you’ll be better equipped to bring him the greatest joy of his life.

Let’s get started!

9 Bad Oral Sex Techniques You Should Definitely Ignore

1. Pay attention to the small things

If you missed your sex ed class that day, you should know that the glans penis is made of exactly the same material as the female clitoris.

Just like focusing only on a woman’s clitoris (to the exclusion of the rest of her vulva/vagina/body) can be uncomfortable, so too can focusing only on the tip of his penis.

I mean, of course you might Capable He could be brought to orgasm by focusing on the head alone, but the orgasm (if it occurred at all) would be too localized and his climax would be completely superficial.

If you focus only on the glans, there’s a good chance his penis will become oversensitive and he’ll have to stop, or he’ll start to go numb and have to stop. In either case, he’ll experience something unpleasant that’ll force him to say, “Uh, baby… I need you to stop,” which isn’t exactly the best blowjob of his life.

So what should you do? Focus on the glans, penis, testicles, thighs, etc. You can’t give someone an ecstatic full-body orgasm by focusing on one square inch of flesh. You need to engage with his entire body to do that.

2. Keep a consistent rhythm

Many women believe (or have been told) that in order to give their men a satisfying climax with oral sex, they need to be persistent. They need to do one thing, with a consistent rhythm, or he’ll lose “momentum” and the whole thing will be a complete failure.

Well, I have good news for you…

Not only is this not the case, but the exact opposite is true.

Doing the same thing for too long is more likely to numb him than make him ejaculate.

And, engaging his penis in a variety of ways (stimulation, speed, and pressure) may allow him to orgasm faster and more powerfully.

The misconception that men need super consistent touch and rhythm is a real thing women think. Since most women need consistent touch and rhythm to orgasm, they naturally assume (or have been explicitly told) that men do the same. But in my experience working with thousands of men, the opposite is more true.

Hope this brings you great comfort!

Just because you switch things up or need a quick break won’t put a damper on his orgasm. In fact, it can help him orgasm faster. So don’t worry! Variety is not only the spice of life, it’s also the spice of… oral sex (well, you get what you pay for).

3. Too much focus on sucking

It’s true that people often refer to oral sex on a man by saying “suck his penis.” But that doesn’t mean you actually need to do much (if any) sucking.

In fact, you can do an entire blowjob with zero suction and it won’t affect the blowjob in any way.

So if you think that adding suction to every oral movement will add unnecessary jaw tension and stress to the whole process, the good news is that you can forgo suction altogether and he probably won’t even notice.

(Want to learn how to love oral sex? Watch this bonus video interview with my wife and I, from our show “The Queens of Oral Sex,” on this topic.)

4. Slap his penis to desensitize it

If you’ve seen any mainstream porn produced in the last 10-20 years, then you’ve most likely seen this little gem.

It’s one thing that this practice is rampant in a lot of pornography, but it’s another to actually make it into an advice column.

Let me state this clearly and affirmatively, I assure you that the vast majority of men do not want to be spanked on the penis. Either as a desensitization tool to make them last longer, or as a pleasure supplement. Spatting one of the most sensitive parts of someone’s body is the opposite of pleasure.

Of course, with billions of people in the world, it’s entirely possible that the man around you enjoys this behavior. If so, he’ll tell you that he enjoys it. Don’t ever assume that this is a common practice that men enjoy.

Got it? Good.

5. Spread chocolate sauce/cream/maple syrup on your penis

If you’ve ever read a Vogue-style “55 Oral Sex Tips to Turn Him On” article, you’ve no doubt seen bad oral sex tips like this.

While I totally get that whipped cream, chocolate sauce, and maple syrup are all delicious treats, and the concept sounds sexy, in reality, it quickly turns into sticky pubic hair and a mess.

Not only that, but if your oral sex is just a stopover for vaginal sex, the remnants of these foods enter your body and you stand a good chance of getting a yeast infection. Best to steer clear.

6. Enjoy the bubbles with a glass of champagne or soda

Similar to the previous food-based trick, trying to explore new sensations through carbonated bubbles in your mouth may sound fun, but in practice, it’s cumbersome and not sexy at all.

I mean, imagine filling your mouth with any liquid and then trying to slide a cylindrical object into it without any liquid leaking out (or shooting out).

For this oft-touted oral sex trick, the results aren’t worth the effort.

7. Put ice cubes in your mouth

The sensitive, highly aroused penis head…meets ice!

Ah, of course! The most desired thing for the engorged penis is to press directly against the frozen solid ice! How clever!

Again, this is very common, bad oral sex advice. sound In theory, this is interesting, but in practice, it is very uncomfortable.

Of course, if your partner wants to experience a cool sensation on the penis, take a sip of a cold drink, swallow it, and then put it in your mouth. The cool feeling is great and will last a long time. But applying ice directly to an erect penis is completely unnecessary.

Bottom line? Leave the ice in the freezer. I promise you, his penis wouldn’t dream of being a stirring stick in your frozen tundra mouth.

8. View deepthroat as a necessity to be achieved

In general oral sex advice, people consistently talk about deepthroat as if it is the ultimate oral sex trophy to be obtained.

Allow me to solemnly declare: this is absolutely not the case.

If you (like most people) can’t deepthroat, that’s totally fine. If you don’t want to try anything close to deepthroat at all, that’s totally fine. Or if you want to deepthroat but your partner is thick and you can’t deepthroat, that’s totally fine too.

Deepthroating is a rare party trick that only a handful of people can pull off, and I’m pretty sure you’re totally off the hook, and there’s no need to do it.

To easily simulate the sensation of deep throat, simply hold the majority of the penis with two wet hands while wrapping your mouth around the glans. Voila! No gagging required.

9. Unless you swallow his semen, the blowjob is a failure

Another commonly touted expectation in the bad blowjob tips section of your favorite magazine is that blowjobs barely count unless you swallow his cum. This is, of course, completely false.

Maybe you’re at the beginning of a relationship and you don’t want to swallow his cum because it would feel too intimate.

Maybe you hate the consistency, the experience, or the taste and it makes you sick.

Or maybe your stomach is empty and you know swallowing it will make you sick.

Whatever your reason is, it is valid.

Plus, there are a lot of other fun and sexy things you can do with it besides swallowing cum.

As a brief example of the options, you can:

– Use your hand to cum for him, let him cum on your breasts, belly or ass

– Let him cum in your mouth and then let it run down your chin and/or torso and smear it with your hands

– Let him cum on your face or chest with his hands at the last moment

– Let him cum on your belly, then clean him up by caressing him with a warm, wet towel.

– Let him cum in your mouth, then you can shoot it ten feet across the room onto the bullseye/archery target you set up this morning, thus impressing him with your long-range accuracy

Remember that oral sex can still be pleasurable even if he doesn’t ejaculate in your mouth or swallow it.

Oral sex is only fun if both parties enjoy it. So don’t swallow his cum out of obligation (or feel guilty about not swallowing his cum).

Want better oral sex advice than the ones above?

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Committed to your success,

Jordan

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– Blowjob Queen (female video shows that teach you how to give your man the most incredible blowjob of his life)

– Bring Him to God: Advanced Masturbation Techniques for Women (a video program for women that will help you give your man an orgasm he’s never experienced before)

– 8 of the sexiest oral sex positions

– 18 of the sexiest masturbation positions to turn him on

– Understanding the Male Heart (video program for women that teaches you to understand the nuances of men’s deepest fears, desires and needs, and what really drives them in life, so you can have the best possible relationship with them)