8 Reasons to Use Lube (and How to Choose the Right One) |

Lube isn’t on everyone’s bedside list. But maybe it really should be.

Maybe you’re not reaching your full pleasure potential. Maybe you’re even a little bit in the pain zone and you don’t know what’s going on. While you can easily associate a lubricant of some kind with anal sexor menopausal women, its magical and compassionate uses are manifold, and there’s probably also a lot you don’t know about how to choose a good lube (rather than an evil one) for your particular body, and whatever type of sex you’re having – or want to have.

Your partner may need to let go of his or her assumptions. You may need to do the same.

Here are some common assumptions people make about arousal that simply aren’t true.

What is horny = wet

While this is often true, there are many reasons why a very horny woman may still have dry stools: stress, lack of sleep, hormones (all related), or smoking a joint, to name a few.

It’s wet = horny

This goes both ways. I have personally been wet enough, while still not feeling aroused enough (physically and/or mentally) to have sex comfortably. Sometimes it’s because if I sense my partner is in a hurry, I feel turned off. Never replace arousal with lube. Lube is there to help, but don’t let anyone tell you that you’re ready for penetration if you’re not.

Young women who use lubricant… must have a problem

See Hypothesis #1 for reasons why a woman of any age can be left behind. Another note: we need to stop our bad habit of hypersexualizing young women and girls and desexualizing older women. It’s disgusting. We’re all juicy goddesses looking for a way to fly. Okay?

That a little pain is normal; it’s supposed to hurt

I hear this phrase a lot about anal sex (thankfully never from my own lovers). Simply put, no. Sex isn’t supposed to hurt (and neither is love, for that matter). Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

So, let me break it down for you. Here are 8 reasons why you should really lube up.

1. Vaginal dryness

Whether you are simply less wet naturally, have medical issues (post-menopausal) or for any other reason.

2. Toys

Toys can multiply your pleasure exponentially, but I highly recommend always adding a little lube first.

3. It’s also great internally

You can use it externally on your family jewels as well as internally for overall intensified pleasure.

4. Longer sex

Intercourse can last longer because there is less risk of snagging, friction and pain.

5. If it is really too big

If he’s really big, lube will make this whole thing (his whole thing) more enjoyable for you. Pleasure is the goal, right?

6. Condoms

It’s easier and more fun to use condoms With lube. And condoms are often very important, right? Using “lubricated” condoms isn’t always as effective, because they’re often only wet at the tip. So before the condom dries you out, lube it up. Plus, applying a little bit of it to his cock before putting the condom on can also increase his pleasure potential.

7. Prevention of infections.

If you bump and rub without enough lubrication, there will be friction, which generates heat, which promotes bacterial growth. The wetter the better, my darlings.

8. It’s much more effective (and more glamorous) than saliva

I’ve never been a fan of spit as lube, and it dries quickly. But if spit is your thing, go for it. Also, use lube if you want to stay slippery.

So now that I’ve basically convinced you to jump on board the lube train…here are some tips on what to look for when buying lube.

1. Water-based lubricants

Water based lubricants The gloves are nice and slippery and easy to clean with water. But you may need to reapply them periodically if you pull an all-nighter. Look for high-quality (body-safe) options that are petrochemical-, glycerin-, and paraben-free.

2. Check the ingredients

If you are sensitive, be sure to check the glycerin or cellulose content, as these ingredients can cause increased sensitivity to yeast and other infections.

3. Silicone-based lubricants

Silicone based lubricants Water-based lubes are very slick and can be used in water, if that’s what you want. They’re also less likely to require multiple applications than water-based lubes. You do need soap and water to clean them off. Try not to get it everywhere to avoid slipping when you finally stand up (assuming you’re horizontal).

4. Silicone sex toys

If you use silicone lubricant on silicone toysThis will gradually destroy things. So try to avoid this. Silicone Lubricant is ideal for anal sexHowever.

5. Latex condoms

Always use a water-based or silicone-based lubricant (rather than oil-based) with latex condoms, as oil-based lubricant can degrade or even break the condoms! I was a huge fan anal coconut oil until i found thisOops.

6. Latex-free condoms

If latex condoms aren’t in your repertoire (Skyn condoms are a great non-latex option, by the way), oil-based lubes like jellies and oils can be incredibly pleasurable. If you’re particularly sensitive to artificial products, plant-based options like olive, coconut, or grapeseed oils are a healthy, eco-friendly option, but your sheets will hold the smell for a while, and it can sometimes stain.

7. Lubricants for arousal

Lubricants for arousal (usually water-based) can enhance your lovemaking with warming and tingling sensations.

8. Flavored Lubricants

Flavored Lubricants (also water-based) also come in many flavors. That’s right. Before you get grossed out, just know that there are also organic lubes, which makes this option even more appetizing.

No matter what lube you choose for your personal sensual adventure, rule #1, as always, is: have fun. Lots of fun. Smooth, gliding pleasure. Because everyone deserves quality sex.