7 Tips for a Successful Relationship — and a Sexy One —

A threesome can be an incredible, fiery addition to your sex life. It can be. But it can also be very awkward. Not only are there three different people to think about and take care of, physically and emotionally, but there are also so many limbs flying around. It can take some getting used to. But one of the best ways to make a threesome work is to make sure you work out some of the practicalities ahead of time. Doing it with the right people and making sure you talk it out beforehand can be the difference between a mind-blowing sex marathon and a lot of uncomfortable silences.

My best threesome experiences happened when we were all single and all friends before, and we were also very laid-back people when it came to sex. But most trios There are plenty of couples looking to spice up their sex life. And when you add a couple into the mix, things can get even more complicated.

Here’s what you need to know to make sure your threesome is hot as hell without any of the clumsiness.

1) Talk to your partner beforehand

First of all, if you are in a relationship, you need to be very clear about what you are both looking for. If you think this is a one-time gift and your partner is looking to open up your relationship, things will end badly. Make sure you are both on the same page and know what you are hoping to get out of this experience.

2) Choose wisely

The person you choose is very important. Of course, it has to be someone you are both attracted to. But then you have to ask yourself whether you would prefer it to be someone you know, which has the advantage of being someone you feel comfortable with, or someone you don’t know, which has the advantage of being anonymous. This can make a huge difference. Both options have pros and cons, so think carefully and figure out what is right for you.

3) Establish ground rules

I know ground rules can sound boring, but I promise they’ll help you feel comfortable, which makes everything a lot sexier. Figuring out if certain sex acts are off limits, if you want safe words, whether you’re going to dinner or drinks first, and just talking about your general sexual styles can make things go a lot smoother. Oh, and of course, practice protected sex.

But you already knew that, didn’t you?

4) Relax

It’s completely natural to be nervous, especially if it’s your first time. So have a glass of wine, get a massage, do something that will make you more comfortable before you jump in. You don’t want to overdo the wine, you have to do it. be present to enjoy the sexual adventure New things are coming, but being relaxed will help you open up to new experiences.

5) Remember that you can unsubscribe

Also remember that you can always change your mind. If you don’t like what you’re doing, you don’t have to continue. It’s that simple. If you’re feeling anxious, just remember that you have complete control over the situation.

6) Keep things balanced

Threesomes with a couple tend to play out in different ways. Either the guest star gets a lot of attention, or the couple ends up fighting each other, each trying not to make the other feel insecure. But the truth is, the sexiest threesomes are the ones where everyone gets the attention. Don’t be afraid to switch partners, experiment, or even bring in toys in the mix.

You step out of your comfort zone and many amazing sexual experiences await you. You just need to get used to all the members first.

7) Talk about it afterwards

To make sure the threesome went well, it’s best to talk to your partner about it afterwards and take stock. Maybe you’ll realize that you both enjoyed the experience so much that you want to make it a habit, maybe it’s best only for special occasions. Either way, it’s up to you: it’s your sex life! But if you have lingering issues or it made you feel something else, talking to your partner about it is the best solution.

A threesome, if done right, should be a totally hedonistic pleasure fest. It’s stimulating, exciting, and something new and naughty in every sense of the word. But for that to happen, you need to plan well. Little things like making sure everyone is on the same page and setting out do’s and don’ts may not seem like the hottest activity in the world, but it will ensure that everyone feels comfortable enough for the sex to be truly steamy.

So whether it’s a one-time event or an expansion into a whole new realm of your sexual identity, make sure everyone has a good time.

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