I haven’t even seen you, but I can say with no doubt that your clitoris is an amazing, fascinating biomechanic – because all clitoris (or I like to call them) are great. It’s that magical body part that all sexual partners should take the time to figure it out because when you do it, it’s worth it.

After all, “the clitoris is the only human organ, and its only function is pleasant,” Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, a sexologist and relationship expert, told Sheknows. It’s just there to make you feel good and give it the attention it deserves is indeed At least You (and your partner) can do it.

Sheknows talks with Dr. Gunsaullus and relationship coach and sex educator Dawn Serra to understand the ins and outs of clitoral pleasure – what they share might surprise you. Let’s start with the fact that you actually contain more than just the way you see the external core – “It’s really just the tip of our pleasant iceberg,” noted Dr. Gunsaullus. What other myths and misunderstandings do we need to debunk, and should you also understand these incredible orgasm organs? Keep reading to find out because knowledge equals power (and better sex).

1. Your clitoris is much bigger than you think.

Don’t let the clitoris look fool you – it’s actually much bigger and more complicated than you think. “The clitoris is a complex structure with external and internal components,” explains Dr. Gunsaullus. This is why she actually calls it a “clitoral complex.” It turns out that “the complete clitoral complex goes deep inside the body,” she says, “including the ‘legs’, called crura and the erectile tissue surrounding the vaginal tube.”

Or, as Serra says, “Your clitoris is a huge swollen, pleasing network.” She explains that some sex educators call the clitoris quadrupeds because that’s exactly what the network of clitoris structures looks like inside your pelvic floor.

2. Clitoris can be erect

Even though the outside of the clitoris is often hidden, it actually grows when awakening the woman. “It’s made of tissue from the erectile dysfunction, and it’s filled with blood like a penis,” Serra explained.

3. It’s more sensitive than we think of first.

Your clitoris contains over 10,000 nerve endings (yes, really). As Dr. Gunsaullus pointed out, it is More More than the 8,000 people we initially thought it had – it also has more than any other part of the body. “It’s very sensitive,” she stressed. “Stimulating the clitoris in a way that matches the individual’s unique preferences is key to sexual pleasure and orgasm in most vulvas.”

4. It’s normal to look different

There is no such thing as a “normal” clitoris, because all women have different shapes. As Serra explains, some are big and some are small, they may highlight or hide, but they all do the same work. However, it is said that the distance from the vagina to the clitoris can affect your orgasm ability (see No. 7).

5. Your clitoris doesn’t like dryness

“Dry fingers and [sex] Toys on the clitoris usually don’t feel good. “Serra said. If you and your partner want a happy clitoris and don’t have enough natural liquids to create a wet environment, always use lubricant.

6. This is a Greek

Have you ever wondered where the word “clitoris” comes from? According to Serra, the root of the word is the Greek word for “key”. Just like the key to a woman’s orgasm.

7. Your clitoris orgasm more intensely than your penis

“The penis and clitoris are full of incredible nerve endings,” Serra said. “But the nerve ends of the penis are scattered in larger areas, while most nerve ends are concentrated in areas with stronger clitoris.” The concentration of the nerve ends is stronger than the feeling of penis activate.

8. It’s distance from the vaginal opening to your orgasm

Not the size, but the distance. Serra explains that the size and position of the clitoris can affect sexual pleasure. “The distance between the vaginal opening and the size of the clitoris can greatly affect the pleasure of the gust of the gust of the gust of the gust of the gust of the gust of the gust of the vagina.” For those with a clitoris far from the vaginal opening, you may want to try a variety of stimulations, sex toys, or other locations for a fabulous orgasm. Dr. Gunsallus suggests positions such as missionaries, “because of the larger body friction and the angle inside the penis, external clitoral stimulation can be enhanced.”

9. Penetration is not always a favorite game

Speaking of penetration, sometimes penis sex in the penis is not the best for clitoral stimulation. “Most women can’t orgasm just by vaginal penetration, because the penis may completely miss the clitoris,” said Serra. In other words, don’t feel sad if PIV sex doesn’t give you the orgasm you dream of; try different positions while touching and clitoral sex toys to understand what your body likes.

10. No, your clitoris is not “just” foreplay

Maybe you’ve been in a situation where your partner gives your clitoris enough attention to make you induce enough sex and then forget about it – or just think, “Okay, that part is over.” While clitoral stimulation certainly plays a big role in the beginning of the arousal, it’s also key to climax.

In other words, “It is necessary for most women to experience orgasm,” Dr. Gunsallus confirmed. In fact, there is science to support it. “Study shows that during heterosexual intercourse, the percentage of men reporting orgasm is twice as much as the percentage of women,” she explained. This gap is known as the orgasm gap, highlighting the importance of prioritizing clitoral stimulation to get everyone deserves sexual satisfaction.

11. If it takes a while, you won’t break

Don’t let anyone tell you that your orgasm should happen soon – your clitoris is a slow machine. “Just like the penis needs blood to flow to Engorge, the clitoral complex needs blood to cause it completely,” explains Dr. Gunsaullus. “This can take time, energy and stimulation around the vulva.”

Then how long will we talk about? According to Serra, it takes an average of 20 to 25 minutes of stimulation and foreplay before a person who causes completely vulva. Some people find that they need 45 minutes (or more) of clitoral stimulation before causing intercourse.

12. Its wakeup mode changed, just like the weather

Unlike men who usually have a rather consistent arousal pattern, clitoral arousal fluctuates according to the time of the month, stress levels, hormones, and even moisture and nutritional levels. “The way you experience pleasure and arousal may change,” explains Sera.

13. Your clitoris likes to communicate

Both of our experts stressed how important it is to talk to your partner about how you and your clitoris develop. “Communicate and have a sense of adventure,” Serra said.

No one said it was easy, but the rewards were totally worth it. “Although it can be very awkward and easily explained, explaining the sensations you are most aroused and directly asking what you want with clitoral stimulation, all the bodies are different and no one can read your thoughts!” Dr. Gunsallus said. “Share your preferences can lead to effective and pleasant clitoral stimulation that improves everyone’s sexual experience.”

The version of this article was originally published in March 2015.

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