13 Coming Out Stories From The Bellesa Community | Sex Toys

We asked the Bellesa community to share their coming out stories in honor of Pride Month. Here are some of your stories!

1. “I realized I was bisexual during lockdown. I came out to my family with a cake that said, ‘Surprise, I’m bisexual’.”

2. “I came out to my husband while we were watching Quantico. I had been attracted to women before and never thought of it as a phase, but Priyanka Chopra… My husband works in the LGBTQ community, so talking about this stuff is not unusual for us. It was a commercial break and I told him I thought I was pansexual. He told me he thought he was too and we celebrated and went back to watch the show. Coming out to my niece showed me how loving and accepting kids can be. She was getting to that age and realizing that her classmates had two moms or two dads and started asking questions. I kept it simple, I liked boys and girls, but there are also people who don’t identify as boys or girls and not only do I love them too, but that’s how I feel.” She listened, nodded, said ‘cool’ and we congratulated each other… Almost all of my coming out stories end with a high five.”

3. “Two years into my straight relationship, I came out to my (then) boyfriend. He started crying thinking I was breaking up with him, no honey, just an update.”

4. “In the midst of all this, after 15+ years of marriage to one man. I felt as alive as ever!”

5. “I realized I wasn’t straight when I was eight years old, but I didn’t have the language to think about what my identity was yet, I just thought I was ‘different.’ It took me until I was 15 to come out and start accepting my sexuality, first to my friends online, then to my twin sister, and then to close friends at a school camp. I originally came out as bisexual, but the following year I realized I was a lesbian. I think it scared me at first, but now it’s one of my favorite things about myself and I love loving women and non-men!! I also identify as non-binary, so the label ‘lesbian’ really encompasses my identity because it means ‘non-men loving non-men’!” I’m still trying to find the courage to come out to my parents, but I know they’ll accept me. It’s my grandparents I’m worried about, but oh well 🙂 »

6. “I came out to my mom and she literally ran out of the room screaming, ‘Steve, she finally did it!’”

7. “I told my mom I was bisexual while I was doing the dishes. She just smiled and said, ‘yeah, me too.’”

8. “My mom bought a pride flag last year for pride month and she showed me how excited she was to hang it up for the whole neighborhood to see. Then she told me it could be to celebrate some of the queer people she knew and I told her it could be to celebrate me! Then I told her I was bisexual. Honestly, a very rewarding experience. She was even prouder to hang it in front of our house after that!”

9. “I came out last year. I haven’t told anyone, but it feels good to acknowledge it.”

10. “I called my mom crying because my first girlfriend broke up with me. It was doubly sad because I hated not being able to tell my mom I was happy. Luckily, the story has a happy ending because we got back together a week later and have been together ever since.”

11. “I never came out, I just dated anyone, regardless of gender.”

12. “I came out to my parents when I was 16. I was lectured that there was apparently no such thing as straight or gay and that I was just “going through a phase.” My mom ended up developing Bell’s palsy from the stress of coming out and we didn’t speak for the rest of the year. I also had to apologize for stressing her out so much. Four years later, I had an argument about how I didn’t trust my parents anymore. I told them that I stopped trusting them and sharing personal information with them since coming out and my mom was like, “Are you still talking about that?!” We continued to not speak for 4-5 months. To this day, they still aren’t accepting of it and I just want everyone to know that coming out is okay. It can be scary and it takes a lot of courage, but it’s liberating to be able to break free and live as true to yourself as possible. There’s a whole community of queers and allies who support and love you. I love you all!”

13. “I came out to my parents, they told me that they didn’t care who they were, as long as they weren’t assholes.”

Whether your coming out is funny, emotional, or has yet to be written, we hope you all have communities that support you and allow you to be your most authentic self. Happy Pride! <3