Your Guide to Dating and Sex Apps | Aldult Toys Blog

In 2015, journalist Nancy Jo Sales published an article, Tinder and the Dawn of the “Dating Apocalypse” It was about how dating apps were unleashing a new dystopian romantic landscape where sex was driven by algorithms and real-life relationships remained largely formless. She argued that instead of facilitating human connection, dating apps were only reinforcing hookup culture, for better or worse. Yet Sales later became one of the “the most enthusiastic experienced users“: As a single mother in her 50s, she found particular success with men in their 20s, some of whom were all about sex, but others about much more.

There’s no doubt that life in the age of dating apps can leave a person feeling disposable, disengaged, detached, or downright depressed. But in the world we know today, there are undeniable benefits to using these apps, especially when it comes to sex. In what glorious past could we weed out people with completely incompatible sexual interests, for example?

So if you are out there, IIn the tumultuous sea of ​​apps trying to navigate the world of human sex, I offer this simple, humble guide to getting what you want, finding what you need, and keeping your spirits up. Hint: Some of these tips apply even in a world without Apple.

Expose your needs before you expose your sexy body

Maybe The best part about dating apps for finding sex is that there is literally no reason not to be upfront and clear about your sexual needs and desires, perhaps even before you meet. Never a reason to keep this information private, but when you’re using sex apps, there’s no reason not to do it from the get-go (i.e. “no NSOs” means no one-night stands). Maybe you want a long-term lover, or maybe you just want to explore double penetration a bit, some BDSMor a threesome. Isn’t it cool that dating apps allow you to choose a date who identifies as a dom, submissive, or “who cares”? That being said, it’s essential that you meet in person and in public Before get to work to build a foundation of trust and clear communication, so that consent is always respected. This is important no matter what your business is, but it is especially important when exploring problems or fetishes that involve giving up your trust to the other person.

Be honest about your intentions…and your feelings too

If you’re here for a little sex without permission, that’s your right, but always be upfront about it, you know, to avoid conflict, hurt feelings, and/or deep misunderstandings. I’m making my intentions clear And feelings because guess what? We are humans with ever-changing internal mechanisms, which means that possible going into it with certain intentions (i.e., kinky, casual, non-exclusive sex) and eventually catching romantic feelings that make you want to be monogamous until death do you part. No matter what you intend to do and how you feel, being honest with yourself is key, and keeping your partner in the loop is the right thing to do. If they’re on the same page, great! If not, at least you can both make informed decisions about how to proceed (or not).

Always be safe!

If you’re not entering into a committed, monogamous relationship where you’re both tested for STIs, use protection! Condoms are your best friend and they do a great job of protecting you from STIs and unwanted pregnancy. When I was still online dating, I made a point of asking guys what they thought about condoms. If they were hesitant, our sex date was out of the question, plain and simple. When it comes to safety, sex, and dating apps, strict boundaries are most definitely your friend! Also, it goes without saying that you should never meet someone at their house or a hotel right away. Even if it’s a straight-up, basic hookup, you really should look them in the eye for a moment before deciding if you really want to get naked with them. For all its advances, an app can’t convey that kind of information!

Avoid Dating App Burnout

Dating app burnout is real, my friends. Most people, given the incredible availability and diversity of dating apps, have more than one app on their phone. Personally, having explored multiple apps at once myself, I would highly suggest choosing Aand commit to it for a set period of time before moving on to another. That way, your attention isn’t spread thin between multiple apps and god knows how many different potential dates (not to mention all the unwanted messages). It can get exhausting pretty quickly, as many of us know. You can also pick two or three apps, see how they feel, and commit to sticking to one app in a week. The other thing I would suggest is limiting the number of dates you go on with different people in a given week, month, or even day. It’s totally cool to want to date multiple people, but the fact is that meeting multiple people at once can hurt your brain. If you want quality sex, don’t overload your circuits. Take enough time to focus on each human being you meet as a unique entity full of potential. This can be a real challenge in a culture where lovers and potential love interests are available 24/7 on drop-down menus. But do it anyway.

Bottom line: If you want to meet someone, count yourself among the billion other people who want the same thing. The good news is that most of them are on apps. And it’s not just Tinder anymore. Sarah Clean of Squire There’s an app out there that’s right for your personality type, your job status, and your level of commitment to the dating game. Maybe you want to have a night together tonight, but meet your future spouse for dinner this weekend. There’s an app for that.” But while the choice of apps can be overwhelming at times, you know…choose oneand go from there. You can always change or modify your app selection later. Whichever app you choose, follow the guidelines above to keep things honest, focused, and most importantly, human. After all, being human is really the only hope we have for surviving modern love! <3