Working Step 6 – Sex and Relationship Healing

If you do what you always do, you will get what you always get.

With Step 6, we become entirely ready to have our Higher Power remove our defects of character. So, rather obviously, the first part of working Step 6 is figuring out what our character defects are. To this end, it is helpful to re-read our Step 4 inventories with our sponsor, looking for patterns of fear, dishonesty, greed, lust, jealousy, grandiosity, willfulness, sideways anger, etc. As we go along, we can write down each individual character defect that we spot. Once we have compiled our list, we can write, next to each character defect, a corresponding trait that we’d like to replace it with. For instance, if we identify ‘lust’ as a character defect, we could choose ‘relationship fidelity’ as something we aspire to. There is no set number of character defects that we should be trying to identify. Our list will be as long as it needs to be.

Task for Today
Pay attention to your character defects, and work to reduce their power.