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It is easier to forgive an enemy than a friend.

As recovering sex and porn addicts, we often wonder why our partner is so angry and can’t “get over it” after we stop cheating and lying. We wonder why he or she seems so angry because the good things we are doing for our recovery, our relationship, and our lives seem to be going unnoticed and unappreciated. In this case, we need to understand that because we lied and kept important secrets from our partner (including about sex), and we did so for so long, he or she will not immediately trust us as much as before. To our partner, all the good things we have done and are doing now pale in comparison to our violation of relationship trust. When our partner finds out that we cheated, lied, and kept important secrets, they will not get over it unless we rebuild trust—and rebuilding relationship trust is an arduous process that often takes a year or more.

Today’s Task
Be patient with your partner and understand that it may be difficult for him or her to trust you because he or she you Betrayed the relationship.