When I go out with me, I deserve “Princess treatment”

Posted by PSEDEN

2025-07-01

On 2025-07-01

There are only two words, a stay-at-home mom and housewife Courtney Palmer sparked debates about chivalrous spirit, shared courtesy and gender roles.

On June 21, the 37-year-old posted a tiktok on her account, @jojoejoelle received over 4.5 million views and made many critical comments.

In the nearly six minutes of video, Palmer details what she has marked as “Princess Treatment” in the partition.

“If I were in the restaurant with my husband, I wouldn’t talk to the hostess, I wouldn’t open any doors and wouldn’t order my own food,” she said. She also talked about details such as what to do at coat inspections, valet ceremonies and owner’s stalls when her husband checked in and booked.

One hate wrote: “This is a situation of giving a cult or hostage.”

Apparently, there is a wave of criticism when shooting videos, Palmer said, “It’s not a…’I’m better than them or I don’t need to talk to them.” You’re better than you in any sense [staff].

“You just let your husband lead and be a man,” she declared.

She explained: “He made the reservation and he took you out- let him do the logistics. You’re just a princess, you’re not trying; you’re just letting him take care of it.”

Once the comments summoned her to get rudely rolled in, Palmer answered.

“Of course, I said ‘thank you’, smiling at the people who serve us. I won’t be silent all night. I’m talking about two very small interactions throughout the night.” “If the hostess talks directly to you, you won’t ignore them.”

The gender element of the relationship dynamics involved in her “Princess Treatment” reappears again in the video.

“The most elegant and loveliest women often speak softly and don’t over-examination,” she said. “They are not loud. You don’t laugh, speak loudly, and you don’t ask for attention from the room.”

The content creator also added that sometimes she does get weird and said she thought the restaurant staff “think I was like being oppressed or something…I don’t know.”

Palmer said the attitude and relationships were vibrant (which could be labeled as trader ideals) and helped her relax while she spent time with her husband.

“You have to do a lot of things already, and your brain has been on a housewife, and a stay-at-home mom has been busy, so it’s so cute to have your husband do it for you in those little moments. It makes me feel special and over-careful,” the princess herself explained.

Content creators have long been posting content about “Princess Treatment,” but the specific video has attracted particularly harsh responses, including thousands of hate comments and countless parody videos.

“I know it’s going to be ripped apart. People just took things the wrong way, but that’s how I handled it,” she launched in the viral video.

The trader movement has been growing online, but most Tiktok users (especially those in Palmer’s comments) feel persistent about it.

In a recent interview with The New York Times, Palmer said she felt her viral tiktok was misunderstood. She added that being a stay-at-home mom and a housewife had her own requirements, and mentality like “princess treatment” helped her “incline toward feminization.”

Of course, this spirit is not a certain level of relationships, and people have sent their experiences in the comments of the original viral posts.

“As a man, this is given to Steve Ford’s wife! If it works for you, it’s great, but have women struggled with this treatment for years?!” said one person. “I only agree to open part of the door!”

Another commented: “Women don’t need to be quiet and soft! They can be strong and affirmative.”

However, some women saw the appeal.

A like-minded woman replied, “It’s not a matter of control, it’s good.”

“I do the same thing 100% on date night. It’s not about having no sound. He and we both know that without him can do it, but it’s just to relax and let him deal with it, how good is that?” Another.

One commenter said: “It would be terrible if these actions were done by a man who was controlled and condescending! But it would be great if these actions came from someone who was dedicated to you, respect, honor, protect, tender, and take care of you emotionally,” said one commenter.