What Your Favorite Sex Position Says About You | Sex Toys

You can tell a lot about someone by the way they dress, act, eat, talk and dance – yes, dance. But I bet you didn’t know that your favorite sex position can also say a lot more about you than you think. While your favorite sex position may simply be the one that gets you off the hardest or makes you feel safe, on another level, this position goes way beyond practical considerations. That’s right, my friends: Your favorite sex position can actually say a lot about your personality, both in And out of the bag.

Disclaimer: It goes without saying that not all positions mean the same thing to everyone! My own kinky but rather heteronormative sexuality differs from that of people with very different proclivities, for example. Yet even in the straight world, there is room for many surprisingly different experiences of the same positions. Furthermore, a person’s preferred position can vary greatly from partner to partner, which can say a lot about the relationship itself.

Now that that’s all said and done, let’s get down to business, shall we? Here are some whimsical ideas on what your favorite sex position might say about your pretty little personality:

Missionary (with you below)

It is commonly accepted that the term “missionary” is linked to the heritage of Christian missionaries who encouraged the position in the new converts because it was more civilized and less animalistic (plus, man was always on top, yeah). But then again, Shakespeare‘s OthelloThe position was called “the beast with two backs,” which seems a lot more fun to me. Ultimately, the mThe missionary position is considered traditional and predictable, and is therefore decried by many adventurers and revolutionaries. But it also happens to be comfortable and intimate, and who says adventure has to involve contortions, right? Plus, despite everything, it’s still very popular. If this is your favorite position, you may be shy and lack the confidence to show yourself more explicitly. Or you may be naturally submissive, or insecure about taking the lead. Or, if you feel desperate When it comes to having sex (it happens), missionary is usually the first position that comes to mind! The good thing is that missionary allows the partner on top to take the lead, while also fostering a sense of connection (eye contact and kissing are easy). Unless your partner insists on missionary all the time (in which case they may have control issues), missionary as a go-to position often means that you’re both close. So while your sex life may be a little boring at times, your love life is probably amazing.

Tip: Try missionary anal for a subversive approach to tradition, or to explore the Eagle (AKA missionary with legs in the air).

Cowgirl (AKA human cow)

You can leave your (cowgirl) hat on in this position, as an inspiration to gallop into ecstasy. If this is your favorite position, chances are you are sexually confident, savvy, and comfortable with taking the reins. You may even enjoy this position as a way to dominate your partner. You can latch onto the intimate kissing and eye contact associated with missionary (if you want), while taking more control over the flow, depth of penetration, speed, angle, and stimulation of your clitoris. If your partner also prefers this position, chances are they are “visual” and enjoy watching you ride uninhibitedly, wiggling and teasing with abandon. You may be an exhibitionist who loves nothing more than to be watched. If cowgirl is your favorite way to ride, you are comfortable with your body and comfortable with your partner.

Tip: Explore reverse cowgirl for a change of perspective and whole new sensations, baby.

Doggy style

Doggy style is much less intimate for most couples because there’s no eye contact. It makes it easier for men to penetrate deeper, and some women find it’s the best way to stimulate the G-spot. Not to mention, your partner can (and should) reach out to give you a little extra clitoral love. If doggy style is your thing, you’re far from self-conscious and pride yourself on knowing how to turn your lover on (the lack of reassuring eye contact doesn’t slow you down or cause any doubt), plus the exhibitionist in you likes your partner to get a full view of your ass and pussy. You see sex as a way to impress, and chances are you enjoy twerking. This is also the perfect position to indulge in fantasies that don’t involve your partner, because damn it, unless there’s a mirror in front of you (also a great idea), your partner won’t be able to see what your face is doing. But if this is the position you find yourself in most often, chances are you’re focusing on lust at the expense of actual intimacy. You may have a tendency to keep your true feelings under wraps. And finally, since most men finish faster in this position, you may not like it when sex lasts too long. If that’s the case, asking yourself why is always a good place to start.

Tip: Try flat greyhound to explore a variant that allows you less control and no doubt, more skin to skin intimacy.

Spoon

You might as well admit it, you’re addicted to spooning (aka Sunday morning sex). Spooning can be extremely comforting and loving because it allows you to literally be held by your partner. If it’s your favorite position, you love the abandon involved in sex, but you don’t completely give up control because the depth of penetration can be varied by moving your legs, and your partner isn’t weighing you down or pinning you down. You also love the intimacy of that full-on cuddle with its perks. What’s better than cuddling and having sex at the same time? Nothing, as far as you’re concerned. You’re a hopeless romantic at heart, and while you love to cum with the best of them, orgasm isn’t your main goal—closeness is. You like to relax during sex, take it slow and express your naughty side by grinding your ass backwards on your partner’s cock (or strap-on).

Tip: Try linguine to explore a more in-depth approach, which gives your partner a better view.

69

The 69 position is old enough to have been featured in the Kama Sutra, so I dare say it’s a timeless classic. And yes, oral sex counts as sex too. If 69 is your thing, you believe in equal opportunity and don’t like being watched while you do it. If you prefer to be on top of the 69, your body confidence is sky high and you like to lead the charge. If you prefer to be on the bottom, you may have insecurities about your appearance when gravity has its say – or – if you’re like me, you love deepthroating and the 69 from below is a super kinky way to fuel the fantasy of being with 2 men at once: your pussy gets some attention and your throat gets some filling too –Good morning. That said, refusing to enjoy anything other than 69 can spell trouble. only receive, or only giving. Plus, if you’re always face-to-face with only each other’s family jewels, sex can quickly become impersonal.

Tip: Try side 69 to reach everything inside more easily while resting your knees and elbows. You can also rest your head on your lover’s thigh, sigh.

Bottom line: Sex is a wonderful thing. The challenge is to relax into it and not be afraid to try new things while not feeling pressured into doing something that doesn’t really speak to you. Like most things, the art of lovemaking is a delicate balance, to be explored exuberantly with a partner who excites you and listens to you as you share your thoughts.

Mind blowing sex for all! <3